Deprivation is a deprivation, a limitation created for a person when he is unable to satisfy his basic needs. Psychopaths, narcissists and, in general, abusive partners are quite skilled at managing deprivation. Often in childhood, such people themselves experienced deprivation from their parents or some group. They know very well what it’s like to be in this skin. They developed their defenses and adapted. But they remembered the effect, and therefore use this technique in their manipulative games. Types of deprivation that psychopaths, narcissists and abusers in general arrange for their partners: 1) Deprivation of emotional needs - Devaluation of any achievements of a partner, inattention to his words and reactions - Negligence - denial, ignoring the emotional needs of the partner, total coldness - Silence, disappearance in situations when the partner is waiting for an answer, waiting for feedback. 2) Deprivation of intimacy - Such people often consider intimacy as a means of training a partner - They punish and blackmail with the lack of intimacy - With the help of the lack of intimacy or sharp deterioration in his quality, they devalue the partner as a man or as a woman 3) Deprivation of social needs - Gaslight the partner, instilling in him his social failure, inadequacy and inability to be a full-fledged member of society - Deliberately deprive the partner of communication with the environment that is valuable to him, create barriers - Using manipulations gradually they pull a partner out of those areas that give him a sense of self-worth, closeness, and belonging4) Sleep deprivation This is their special trick. - They deliberately do not allow a person to get enough sleep, starve them out and at the same time instill in them what is beneficial to them - They unsettle them by writing and calling at night, they lead to difficult conversations precisely at the moment when a person is weak and most vulnerable. This is what is worth remembering about deprivation from destructive partners - They realize how painful it is for their partner. Doing so is their conscious choice. So to speak, they act on the result. - A loving person, committed to a long-term trusting relationship, will try in every possible way to satisfy the needs of his partner, and not deprive him of the opportunity to satisfy significant needs, thereby making him weak and dependent. - Constantly being in conditions of deprivation will make anyone more anxious and insecure The sooner you free yourself from this, the sooner you begin to build balanced relationships, the better quality of life you will live. - The cruelty and manipulativeness of many destructive partners knows no bounds. Do not justify them. Better take care of yourself. Vera Bokareva, psychologist, psychotherapist, doctor of science. Sign up for an online consultation: WhatsApp / Viber / Telegram: +7-963-231-37-12 / verabo.ru