The second article on the topic of parental messages, let me remind you of 25 of them in 5 categories. In this article I would like to highlight the 1st category - SURVIVAL. All the messages that we could receive from our parents are not said “in direct text”; they may not be said at all, but may not appear verbally. The child himself gives an interpretation of what he hears and sees. And since the child does not have critical thinking, he takes everything personally. These messages include the following prohibitions: - DON’T EXIST - DON’T BE HEALTHY - DON’T TRUST - DON’T BE MENTALLY HEALTHY - DON’T TOUCH This set of messages has a powerful negative force, which prohibits you from taking care of yourself. These messages, in their most negative manifestations, can contribute to the creation of extreme coping behavior (adjusting to a situation to preserve oneself), which over time manifests itself as harmful to mental and physical well-being (behavior can often contain elements of anger and rage both towards oneself and towards others). others). Coping behavior can be very draining and lead to emotional and physical exhaustion. Other people can tell us, reflect our behavior and reactions, so to speak, but we will not listen. The determination to control everything and influence other people may be more important than our health. The main goal of people with high inhibitions in this group is to stimulate others to urge recognition and approval or envy instead of affection, sometimes to the detriment of their health and well-being. You need to prove that you are important and needed - I MATTER! How to transform forbidden messages into permission? At the heart of all these prohibitive messages is a lack of love and healthy affection, and to “relieve” the symptoms, teach yourself how to accept unconditional love. Find out, that there is unconditional love. It is possible to feel enough trust to be vulnerable and allow love into your life. And help and love must come from others. Recognition and approval are good, but this is not love. Searching for emotional warmth rather than seeking for anger. Forgiveness does not erase memory, but it allows the past to remain in the past. Remember, if you received these orders in early childhood, you agreed with them then, this does not mean that they cannot be changed now. Everything is possible, it requires your will and desire. And if you feel that you can’t cope on your own, come for a consultation, I will be happy to help you. Sign up via the link ➔ Sign up The first article on the topic of Parental prohibitory messages via the link - https://www.b17.ru/article/400866/ ______________________________________________________________________________Your psychologist, Larisa DegtyarPhone - +7 (926) 782-13-57My telegram channel https:/ /t.me/degtyar_psy