Good morning everyone! Let's talk about empathy? Empathy is not just a person’s ability to experience, feel another person, respond to pain or joy, but also a valuable personality quality that we know by such epithets, as “heartfelt”, “benevolent”, “sympathetic”, “merciful” Does each of us experience some not very pleasant situations? At such moments a person realizes that he needs support, that the power of a “kind word”, sympathy and response close people is what strengthens a person’s potential, contributes to the most environmentally friendly way out of difficult situations. Empathy, as a warm response from another person to trouble, can minimize stress and truly has some kind of “magical” property. Every person has one or another your empathy potential, some are lower, some are higher. But at the same time, there are cases when the lack of response is informative for us. If you lack support in relationships with your partner, family, friends, colleagues, then don’t you should rush to conclusions. Remember that each situation is individual and requires a competent and professional approach to the solution. For example, if in the relationship between a man and a woman there is not enough support, warmth, participation, where the woman expects her partner to be involved in the relationship, sympathy, and sincerity. What to do? Analyze (preferably with a specialist) your relationship. An anamnesis of family relationships and conflicts helps to clarify the situation. If a child has been constantly subjected to violence from his parents (psychological or physical), then the level of empathy can be either extremely low or excessively high (the latter option is less common). Extremely low empathy is literally “beaten off” "empathy. A person with unprocessed traumas and “blind spots” is not able to provide support to a loved one. As a rule, such people are deeply traumatized. Even if he understands that “yes, he needs to help in this situation somehow” (for example, offer to buy groceries, meet him at the station, support someone else, etc.), then the traumatized person is not capable of such actions. it seems that he is doing something different, that “meeting/seeing off at the station is absurd”, “giving flowers is ridiculous”, “feeding a homeless kitten is stupid”, etc. Evaluativeness, categoricalness and criticality in relation to everything that prevails which is associated with the manifestation of feelings. Any manifestation of feelings (even in the form of an SMS “how are you?”) is a “sharp knife” for a traumatist and, of course, requires some work, immersion in the problem, analysis, reconstruction of traumatic events (and this hurts! But this is a healing process! Compare, when you have your teeth treated or you are recovering from surgery, one way or another you feel pain, but you understand that it leads to healing). If you live with a person who is incapable of showing empathy, do not rush to blame. and attack him with fists. Analyze the current situation. Answer the questions “why do you need this?”, “what values ​​do you get in this relationship?” I recommend contacting a specialist, since soul-searching can lead to irreparable consequences and disrupt your psycho-emotional state. Photo from art therapeutic training in the Jewish community of the Krasnoarmeysky district of the city. Volgograd (author and presenter Nadezhda Arkhangelskaya, photo by Egor Kuzin) Dear readers! Thank you for your attention! Sign up for online consultations and practices by phone 8 927 282 38 78 (messengers) I invite you to my professional page on VKontakte!