From the author: Sincerity is an expensive gift that not everyone can give. What should I do with a psychologist, because this is a stranger who works with me about the most intimate things? My answer. The answer is short, if you are in a hurry: almost always YES, the main thing is to get there)) The answer is detailed: For me, this is a question about - trust in a psychologist as a specialist, - trust in the profession as a whole, - and how the process called consultation works , personal therapy, etc. I'll go from general to specific. HOW IT WORKS: Consultation, therapy as a process can be structured in different ways - it depends on everything: - the approach of the specialist, - the duration of work with the psychologist, - your request (formed for a certain period of the task), but in any case there is a responsibility of two parties - the client and the specialist. Without a doubt: if you find yourself with a competent and decent specialist, given your commitment to work, with a high probability he will be able to help you move towards your goal at the pace at which you are ready, and the beginning of the path may lie far away from the need to tell what you don’t want to say. It may turn out that the undisclosed fact is completely far from the reasons and goals of contacting a psychologist. You will be able to figure out the problem yourself, without resorting to direct discussion, by receiving from a specialist the necessary information, emotional support, or something else. This happens. After several meetings, trust in a specialist most often increases, and there is a desire to tell something that you did not want to say before - the very establishment of a trusting relationship with the help of a specialist within the framework of your work contract can already become an experience that changes your life and your outlook on it. ABOUT CONFIDENCE IN THE PROFESSION OF A psychologist as a whole - a matter of awareness and choice. To decide for yourself the answer to the question “Do I consider working with a psychologist an effective way to cope with the problem?” important to know:Where to look for a good specialist? There are many sources, the main ones being “word of mouth” and the representation of large psychological centers on the Internet. The rest seems to me to be more or less a matter of luck. What are the criteria for assessing his competence? A lot of them. Important: the availability and verifiability of information and the information itself about his education and qualifications, work experience (diplomas, status of place of work, information on advanced training) and compliance with the code of work of a psychologist (it can be found in the public domain on the website of the Faculty of Psychology of St. Petersburg State University). Which specialist exactly do you need and is suitable? A subjective view of a trusted person is very important. The first specialist you choose may or may not be a perfect fit. He may be an excellent professional, but you need a different style of work or a psychologist of a different gender, height, build, school - this is where subjective factors come into play. The main idea: if working with one psychologist did not work out, it is very likely that, after a short analysis of your desires and search, you will find “the one”, and then the work will work, because: see paragraph “How it works” and “Trusting a specialist ". TRUST THE SPECIALIST you have chosen. It is known that except for cases of direct threat to life and health, all other cases fall under the clause on confidentiality of information from the code on the work of a psychologist, which a qualified specialist will tell you about at the first meeting, and knowing this, you yourself regulate sincerity and openness . In a successful case, trust in a relationship with a psychologist grows thanks to the time spent working and what the specialist does for this. And in this case it works for you. The psychologist (MUST NOT) will not push you in any way to talk about what you want to hide. It works with what is here and now: with feelings, emotions that you voice, with questions that you ask, facts that you tell (and more with your relationship with them), even with the fact that you voice reluctance speak if you agree to this work.37620458