She devotes her entire life to her husband, his success, his career, strengthening his self-esteem and strength. She considers him more gifted, often unfairly. At one time this prevented her from having children, but she is the star of parties and receptions, a hospitable hostess - all for the benefit of her husband. She diligently satisfies her husband’s hunger for Strokes and supports him. She puts all her strength into her husband's success, supporting the household and helping her husband in his professional and social life. And she does all this to the detriment of her own abilities and opportunities to achieve professional and personal success. This often ends with the fact that over time, when he achieves certain peaks, and there is no such need for her as at the beginning of his path, she can leave him, and he can find himself a young companion, more attractive sexually and capable of more clearly emphasizing his superiority. Parental prohibitions: “Don’t achieve success.” I often watch competitive games played with young children, when parents, wanting to “cultivate the character” of the winner, beat the child and defeat him - “Don’t surpass me, your parent.” The child, losing, can conclude: “Don’t win, otherwise you will they won’t love.” Continuous criticism of a parent's "wrong actions" only reinforces the "Don't Succeed" belief. The prohibition “Don’t be significant.” The actual loneliness of a child, in a situation where parents are more busy with their own affairs, career, health or appearance (“Is it really difficult to understand, now we have no time for you”) leads him to the conviction that the needs of other people are more important than his own, to selflessness and self-sacrifice. The same belief is also pushed by Parents who underestimate the importance of the child (“Know your place”, “You are nothing yet”), ignoring his capabilities, interests and characteristics. Driver “Please others.” “I am prosperous as long as I please others,” this is the conclusion a child makes in childhood when interacting with his environment. A new path. Understanding that she can please herself, and her mood does not depend on others, is the path to personal freedom. You need to learn to accept Strokes for your own successes and talents. Take responsibility for your life and not shift it to your husband. Gain strength in realizing oneself and for oneself, following one’s own and not other people’s desires.