Everyone knows that we are all different. This applies not only to social spheres of life, but also to sexual relationships. A lot depends on the level of upbringing, level of education and general level of culture. This is certain. These are all areas that are regulated and can even be somewhat adjusted in adult life, of course, if the person wishes, but there is one feature that is given to us from birth and cannot be changed in any way. This innate feature is called sexual constitution. We inherit this quality from our ancestors, with boys from the mother’s family, and girls from the father’s family. So what is this sexual constitution and how does it manifest itself in life? How much sexual intimacy a person needs with his partner, for example, per week how long he can be in this proximity, how quickly he gets excited and how satisfied he is with this is called sexual constitution. Imagine you met a person to whom you have a strong emotional and physical attraction. You understand each other perfectly, you cannot talk enough to each other, you have a huge number of common interests and spiritual kinship. You rushed towards each other to merge in ecstasy and even felt for a while “yes! this is love.” After all, this happens, right? Let’s say that the first sex was even wonderful, the second and third were good... But there comes a moment when you begin to understand that “something went wrong.” And the questions arise: “does he (she) love me?” And then more and more distance and alienation sets in. Irritation and discontent boil up in us, everything seems stupid and unpleasant, and gradually scandals arise and a break in the relationship is approaching. And by that time you had already acquired a common household, maybe even got married and given birth to a child. And now we see the usual picture of all unhappy families - living together with a series of mutual reproaches, scandals and neuroses. And the ending of this is well known to everyone - betrayals, scandals, divorces and the whole range of negative experiences. Of course, you can say a lot that he (she) is “not my person” in emotional, cultural and even everyday terms, and this may also be true. We will talk about the need to take into account our childhood traumas and neuroses when choosing a partner another time. Today we are talking about what is the main basis of gender relations - about the sexual constitution and how it influences. The sexual constitution or sexual temperament is manifested, in particular, in the pace and timing of puberty, which is very different for different people. A person's sexual constitution does not change over the course of life. It is very stable and it is impossible to develop it through training or sexual education. This is a person’s innate ability, like all other abilities, for drawing, composing music, etc. The level of sexual activity, normal and necessary for one person, may be completely insufficient or excessive for another! And so, at an appointment with a sexologist or family therapist, I I hear from the lips of the partners of one marriage something like the following: Wife - “Oh, we have sex often, sometimes even twice a week, we’re fine with that, although I’d ​​rather have less of it” Husband - “You can’t ask her for sex how The greedy has snow in winter. It happens very rarely, very much. We hardly do anything at all..." Thus, what is a lot for one person is almost nothing for another! And in addition to physical sexual dissatisfaction, which in itself has a bad effect on the psycho-emotional state, most often this is where the causes of the main conflicts come from. And this is often also a measure of love. “She doesn’t love me because she doesn’t want sex with me,” the man thinks. “He loves not me, but my body,” the woman thinks. But this may not be the case at all. They both love each other, they just have different sexual constitutions - he has a strong one, and she has a weak one. This fact must be taken into account both when choosing a partner and during a long-term sexual life, and especially if you want to connect your life with another person, getting married. The good news is that.