From the author: Relationships are like lace: “Whatever you weave, that’s what you wear!” Every woman dreams of being protected, with a husband and wealthy .If we use a metaphor about prehistoric time: A man went for prey, and a woman kept the fire on the hearth so that there would be something to fry this mammoth on, something I wanted to eat! The woman believed in the man, in the luck of her husband, in his strength and dexterity, in that he was the bravest hunter. She supported her man with this faith. How else? Otherwise everyone is hungry, otherwise death. Now we don’t need a mammoth. Now is a different time, but we women want a husband who is a breadwinner, brave and successful. Do we believe in his capabilities? What words do we see off and greet? Are these words of respect or humiliation? Do we support him with the words: “You can do it! You can do it! You will succeed! I believe in you!” Men remained men. They want to hear these words, and then they will really cope! What if there are no words of support? If there are complaints, silent blackmail called “let him guess,” a bad mood, or “that’s my character”? Would a man-hunter be able to concentrate on a mammoth if he remembered the bad mood or the character of his wife that was incomprehensible to him? Paradox: I want to, but I don’t believe it! Please, but I'm in the way! If a woman thinks/says: “Yes, what can we expect from him? He, like his father, can’t do anything. Is this a man! How wrong I was!” How does this affect relationships and what thoughts are born in the minds of men at this moment? A few examples of real clients. I love my wife. We've been together for several years now. I provide and care. I'm interested in creativity, that's where we met. After the wedding, I stayed in this creative work, but my wife left and does nothing except home and work. In my free time from work and creativity, I completely belong to my wife. Where he wants, what he wants. Creativity gives me energy and joy. There is a goal that I want to achieve with my wife and children. The wife is often in an incomprehensible mood, sometimes silent, sometimes angry, and may remain silent for several days. We were talking, she said: “I love you, but I have such a character.” I began to notice that this character of hers was slowing down my development. I can’t fully concentrate on business and creativity. I think about what I did wrong, what caused her bad behavior mood. The question increasingly arises: “if she slows me down and blames everything on her character, and her character cannot be changed, will I be able to achieve my goal?” What thoughts arise in a man in such a situation: This interferes with my business/career. I’ll be at work, which means less at home. Save the family if there are children, but look for a woman-muse outside the family who will believe in him and support him. If she slows me down like that, then why do I need such a wife! If my wife has such a character and she doesn’t please, then let her do everything herself! I am married, I love my wife and I love my mother. I feel like they are cutting me off in half. I talked to both my mother and my wife. , asked to leave me alone. Asked to arrange a showdown among themselves without me. Does not work. I don't want to go back home. Tired! What thoughts arise in a man in this situation: Sometimes I want to leave my wife and mother and live alone, help my mother, take care of my wife and children, but separately. I’ll have a drink, lie down on the sofa, everything becomes easier! Let them figure it out themselves as they wish. Yes, dear women, sometimes we are like that. And with the diagnosis “this is my character” or “disrespect for a man,” you can sort it out and change your relationship for the better. Is there any point in dividing your husband? When dividing, you will only get half of the man. Do you need this? Your husband belongs to you, like a husband. For his mother, he is only a son. If these situations resonated with you, then this is the first step towards improving your relationship with your partner. And then act! Advice will not help here! Article Respect your first husband?! Here's another! Books from the series "Psychology in Metaphors" electronic, paper and audio formatOnline and face-to-face transformational game MY.