Family quarrels are different. You can ironically point out your partner’s shortcomings, make a fuss and make peace with laughter, having figured out what needs to be changed in yourself. And you can even reach the Cold War, when, when looking at your soulmate, bitter words appear in your head: “I hate you! I want a divorce!” It's hard not to express these thoughts out loud. In fact (in my life and professional experience), many people had such thoughts during quarrels. Expressing your feelings is more important at the moment than keeping silent. Sooner or later they will erupt into a fountain, which will be very difficult to control. And then they sounded. What's next? After all, the word brings action. But more often what happens is that emotions have subsided, there is no intention to ruin the marriage, and it is impossible to live as before. The reason is simple: one of the spouses let off steam, without mincing words, hit the other with a painful phrase about divorce, as if with a whip, and after that felt relieved. But it’s not for nothing that they say that a slap in the face is remembered better by the one who received it, and not by the one who gave it. What is it like for someone who has such evil words thrown at them? And it’s good if this is a one-time event. And it’s great when, when the couple has cooled down, “having smoked the pipe of peace,” they sit down at the negotiating table. What if this is repeated systematically? Such phrases are remembered. And they make you think. They hurt very painfully and right to the heart. And, if a person hears them from time to time, one day the moment will come when the partner declares that he has gotten used to the idea of ​​​​divorce and is ready for this step. He will even become the initiator, and this will no longer be an emotional play on the feelings of the spouse, but a firm decision. Is it worth putting a marriage based on love and tenderness at risk? Take care of your feelings and the feelings of your spouse, let there be no room for pain and disappointment in your life! If, after all, your decision is true, then you need to talk about it from the position of an adult. It's not easy, but it's possible. Do you have doubts about making a decision? Don't know how to express your decision? No one will do this for you. But it is possible to help understand the problem, to see it from the inside. My contacts +66838832571/whatsapp/telegram