Girls from decent families, without all these Oshos and Valyaevs, know what is most important in life. The most important thing in life is brains and aesthetics. The PhD is not even discussed. This is the minimum GTO. Don’t you dare leave the university without your PhD and appear before your father’s professorial eyes. Why did we raise you and your mother to be such a smart girl? The most worthy occupation is science, the most attractive thing in people is erudition and encyclopedicism, in the evenings children watch “What? Where? When?". Cartoons? What other cartoons? Run away from any apartment where books occupy less than three walls. Walk a mile away from anyone who doesn't remember the three laws of thermodynamics. Are you aware that in Singapore people with low IQ are offered voluntary sterilization? How do you get expelled from the third year? How will you stay at home with the children? How do you go to floristry courses? How is it that brains are not the most important thing in life?.. What is the main thing then? Love passes, wives cheat, children grow up. Science is always with you. - Sorry, daddy. I will live another life. Where there is warmth of touch, tenderness of hugs, living physicality. Where a sensory fact is more important than a scientific fact. And it doesn’t matter in what year “The Tale of Igor’s Campaign” was actually written, but it is important to listen, feel sorry, and pat him on the head. Don't be ashamed for making Schopenhauer yawn. Put down your papers with statistics. Let me hug you... Many of us grew up in families with a “cult of the brain.” In such families, intellectual and aesthetic development is on the pedestal - to the detriment of physical and emotional development. It is considered valuable to have encyclopedic knowledge, a PhD and work in a laboratory. And not at all valuable, for example, is the ability to create comfort at home, attentiveness to the needs of other people, the ability to console, support, be gentle and affectionate. If a child in such a family accepts the family line, problems usually do not arise. He follows the beaten track, supported and understood. It’s another matter if the child is completely different by nature. Tactile. Vulnerable. With a penchant for working with his hands rather than his head. Towards creativity, not analytics. Parents are confused: how is this possible? Did we really have a stupid daughter? you just have to try harder! Let's hire ten tutors! The child feels untalented, deprived of talents, humiliated, useless. A black sheep, a disgrace to the family. And the ironic demotivator above does not seem funny at all, because it reflects reality. In such cases, the task in therapy becomes to overcome the pressure of the parental family. Accept yourself as you are. With his reluctance to highly intellectual activities. And the talent of maintaining a family hearth or raising children, for example. Which, if you think about it, is no worse than a candidate’s thesis. And even better. Read also: Depression - how a psychologist can help I’m arguing with my mother