I continue the topic of destructive female relationship scenarios. Today we’ll look at the “Princess” scenario. The first part here is repeating female scenarios, where I explained in more detail how they are formed. Let me remind you that a female scenario is a relationship that develops in a woman with different men according to the same algorithm, while a feeling of stereotyping and programming of what is happening arises. Destructive female scenarios are formed as a result of the daughter’s lack of certain facets of experience from her father—values, boundaries, contact with her father, family hierarchy. The “Princess” scenario is divided into two categories: The Princess in the Tower The Princess-Prize From fairy tales and cartoons The first option “The Princess in the Tower” (in the castle, in captivity). The second option “The Princess-Prize”, which rejects all applicants who fail to cope with her tasks (or she just doesn’t like them). How does the script manifest itself? “Prize Princess” always receives a lot of attention, fans often compete with each other. But the woman at the same time makes the man understand that he is not alone and he will have to try to capture the attention of the “princess”, because he must be worthy! But at the same time, when the choice is made, the woman conveys that at any moment it can be rejected or replaced by another if it does not meet the standard set for her. It's hard for a man to be in such a relationship. Therefore, either he cannot withstand the tension and leaves, or he is labeled “unworthy”, after which he is replaced by another suitor and the cycle repeats. “The Princess in the Tower” claims that “good men can no longer be found” because “all the good men have been taken away, There are only losers left." She literally does not notice men, their attention, their positive qualities, since her selection criteria are very exaggerated. In both cases, her behavior is inaccessible, sometimes arrogant and devaluing in relation to men. At the same time, the “princesses” devote a lot of time to themselves, their interests, career, self-improvement. However, at some point the realization comes that you want a family. And since in her picture of the world all men are unworthy, three options for the development of events are possible: to abandon relationships and motherhood, most often the woman remains to live with her mother and they play the role of each other’s absent partners; to give birth to a child for themselves, when a man is allowed into the relationship for a short time . The child, in this case, is invited to take the place of the absent partner, literally must live for his mother, marry an “unworthy” and live with a feeling of dissatisfaction, not being very happy in marriage and transmitting his perception to the children, which reflects on their worldview regarding the construction family in the future Where does it come from? As I said, scenarios are laid down on the basis of an emotional connection with the father. In this scenario, the father is treated as “unworthy” in the family, and there is a sense of disrespect/disregard for men in general in the clan system. At the same time, the girl feels admiration from her father. But it feels as if he is serving his daughter, or his actions are being devalued by the mother or the female clan as a whole (grandmother). Contact with the father is lost when the daughter becomes disappointed in her father and joins her mother’s opinion. Dad becomes unimportant and unworthy, and as a result, difficulties arise in the future in building healthy relationships with men. Men are evaluated in terms of their achievements, which, as a rule, are never enough. How to get out of the scenario? Since the girl remains under the influence of her mother, separation from her remains incomplete, since contact with the father has been lost and he was unable to fully fulfill his separative function Therefore, working on separation from your mother, working with the devaluation of your father. The material is taken from the book “It’s All About Dad” by Yulia Zotova and Maria Letucheva. If you feel that you can’t cope on your own, come for a consultation, I will be happy to help you. Appointment WA 89180369412 or private message Psychologist Olga Syrcina