This morning I read an article about when it is better to send a child to kindergarten, where the author says that it is better from the age of three, but it is normal at a year and a half. The author is a children's, adolescent, family, perinatal psychologist, sexologist, business coach, teacher, speech therapist, art therapist. After reading the article, I was extremely surprised and could not remain indifferent. In the comment, she expressed concern about sending her child to kindergarten early. Every day, in practice, I work with clients who have the trauma of rejection and big problems in personal relationships due to early separation from their mother and less than caring experiences in the nursery. I work with parents whose children feel terrible in kindergarten, and the institution’s psychologists communicate in stereotypes and cannot help either the children or the parents, stubbornly arguing that the child must be prepared for school with all his might, no matter what. Every day I have to work on other people’s mistakes, because of which children suffer. In the commentary, I said that until the age of three, a child is in the same field with his mother, where he is calm, warm and safe, but in the nursery he is separated from his mother. Moreover, in the event of a traumatic situation for which the child is not ready due to his age, the child does not receive the protection of the parent. The author replied that our children will always have something to tell their psychologist about. Yes, the preschool education system is imperfect, you need to look for a good tandem of a psychologist and a teacher, and this is the task of the parent. According to this logic, you don’t have to bother with creating a safe and accepting environment, with meeting the basic children’s psychological needs, with careful upbringing and development, with careful and environmentally friendly separation, with the transfer of rights, duties and responsibilities... All the same, our children will find something to tell the psychologist about. It scares me a little that people read such articles and take them as a guide to action, trusting the opinion of a specialist. And then other specialists deal with the consequences of such advice and apologize on behalf of the professional community. I realized that it is pointless to continue the dialogue with the author, but there is an opportunity to share my own vision of the issue. My deep conviction is that if there is an opportunity not to make mistakes, then it definitely makes sense not to make them, so as not to risk the mental health of your child - a dear and valuable person for every normal parent. Up to a year, the child is maximally dependent on the mother and is with her in complete merger. Therefore, leaving him with someone during the first year of life is not recommended in principle. From the age of one, the baby begins to slowly show independence, but his psyche is just developing, is extremely vulnerable and needs the most careful treatment until the age of three. Under the strict guidance and care of parents, the child develops - learns to communicate with representatives of different generations, learns the first information about himself, the world and other people. Masters the first lessons, finds answers to emerging questions. He learns the first rules and norms, encounters his own and other people’s boundaries, and much more. Pushing a one-year-old or one-and-a-half-year-old baby into society who has barely touched the world and leaving him alone with strangers is irresponsible and unsafe. This is a direct path to the trauma of rejection. The child does not realize that mother needs to work or study. He simply loses his mother... Undoubtedly, there are professionals from God in the nursery, but often the educators are women tired of screaming children, who graduated from the preschool department of a pedagogical school, have extensively studied child psychology, and work for a small salary. There simply cannot be any illusions about the tandem of a psychologist and an educator. And besides them, there are also nannies, cleaners and security guards. Do they think about the vulnerability of our children? More likely no than yes. They need the plates to be empty, the pots to be full, the floors to be clean, and the children to be obedient. There is a time for everything. Until the age of three, the child’s psyche is not ready to confront society; it does not yet have sufficient strength and stability, it does not have the necessary.