In the previous article, I described what motives may be hidden behind the desire to have a child. Unfortunately, not every woman plans a pregnancy just because she wants to become a mother, love and care for her child. Often, the birth of a baby is an attempt to keep a man, save the family, finally fulfill one’s social role, or even gain material benefit. What consequences can the destructive motive of pregnancy lead to? I decided to analyze this question from the point of view of transactional analysis: 1) Parental order “Don’t live.” Manifests itself in the form of phrases “If it weren’t for you...”. For example, a child who “failed to keep” his father in the family may become, in the mother’s eyes, the reason for her failures. She forms an irrational belief: “We were together until you showed up. So it’s your fault.” Her psyche may be repressing the fact that the man remained in the relationship as long as he was comfortable, and therefore quickly disappeared as soon as the discomfort associated with the appearance of the baby arose. 2) Parental command “Don’t be yourself.” It manifests itself as disappointment in your child, who did not live up to expectations. The dreams of the mother, who from the first days of pregnancy imagined how she would push a pink stroller, buy beautiful dresses, braid her hair, are shattered when she is told during an ultrasound or in the maternity hospital: “Congratulations, you are having a boy.” The consequences can be different, up to a complete loss of interest in the child and the desire to engage with him. 3) Parental order “Don’t be healthy.” Manifests itself as overprotectiveness. Having a child as an escape from reality can lead to the fact that over time the desire to return to this reality will fade away. If a mother begins to see the meaning of her life only in her son or daughter, she will unconsciously (or consciously) resist separation. A frequently ill child requires care and cannot fully attend first kindergarten and then school. Accordingly, the mother “does not have the opportunity” to go to work and start a new round in her career. In such a sophisticated way she hides from real life. Paradoxically, in this situation, childhood illnesses are beneficial for her: while she is sitting at home, she does not need to leave her comfort zone. 4) Parental orders “Don’t be a child,” “Don’t do,” “Don’t feel.” It manifests itself as a desire to make your child obedient, quiet, and comfortable. Let’s imagine that a girl decides to become pregnant under the influence of society. Those around her, for example, her parents or her husband, insist that the child be born immediately after the wedding, but do not take into account her unpreparedness for this event. A young woman finds herself in a state of shock: the baby cries, screams, does not sleep, reaches for dangerous objects and causes a lot of anxiety. How might a mother react in such a situation? For example, try to “neutralize” it with restrictions and phrases: “Don’t cry,” “Don’t touch,” “Don’t meddle,” etc. What do all these consequences lead to: illnesses in childhood and adulthood, latent depression, child’s attempts to self-harm, unconscious desire to get into dangerous situations, unjustified risks, etc. The purpose of this article is not at all the intention to instill negativity and horror in the thoughts of expectant mothers. This is just an attempt by a family psychologist to emphasize that the birth of a child should be a meaningful step.