Today I will focus on two areas of work to get out of existing behavior programs: building trust and disidentification. An important factor that makes it difficult to begin any work on internal changes in a person is his lack of faith in the possibility of making these changes. It is with the formation of trust that I consider it necessary to begin work on a person’s “exit” from the consequences of childhood psychotraumas. Faith-believe-trust-distrust - these words have the same root and refer to the same phenomenon, which either allows a person to live outside of programs, or does not allow him to go beyond them. One of the severe consequences of childhood psychotrauma for an adult is his lack of trust in the world around him, and as a result, the lack of faith in the possibility of something different, unknown and unusual for him. After all, if the outside world or surrounding people inflicted mental trauma on a child, then, according to the child’s perception, the person will have additional trauma in the form of mistrust for the rest of his life. For how can you trust something that can harm you? That is, distrust is a kind of defensive attitude for such a person. From a general distrust of everything that the surrounding world or people carry within them, comes a disbelief in the possibility of any changes. Such an adult (with a soul traumatized in childhood), even observing that the lives of other people turn out differently, will not believe in the possibility of this for himself for two reasons: he does not know about anything other than his own experience, and therefore “other” is beyond his knowledge and understanding, even guessing about the presence of something “other”, a person with faith undermined in childhood will not believe strangers and what they will tell him about his capabilities and ability to change. Overcome this defensive attitude and show the possibility that the world may not be the same as a person is used to seeing it, is quite difficult, but possible. Since a person turns to a psychologist for help, he is already internally “ripe,” at least, to understand that he feels bad or uncomfortable in his current situation. It is this moment that should be used by a psychologist as a starting point for the formation of a different way of thinking in a person. To do this, it is necessary to constantly “shatter” a person’s existing system of “values” that do not allow him to see the world differently than he is used to, which in itself makes it difficult for himself to adapt to life. All the techniques that are used in NLP to overcome “omissions”, “generalizations” and other distortions in the structure of a person’s perception of the world around them will be of great help in this work. Work to overcome distortions will ultimately lead a person to the question that sooner or later all seeking people ask themselves : “What if I’m wrong and the world is not what I imagined it to be?” or “What if my point of view on other people is wrong, and they don’t wish me harm at all?” Assuming the idea that everything may not be the way a person is accustomed to imagine is the first important step towards forming his worldview , which will take him beyond the framework of programs, since it will allow him to believe in the possibility of something else. After all, doubt in one’s own and familiar is a step towards faith in something else, or simply a step towards faith and trust. When a person begins to believe (admits the thought of the possibility and presence of something else, unknown to him) in something else, this “other” becomes available to him. Only man's faith at all times allowed him to make discoveries and achieve what was not yet known to science. Therefore, the main task of a psychologist at the beginning of working with a person with a history of childhood psychotrauma is to return to him the ability to believe, which will return only when the person doubts what he is used to and what is actually his limitation. As Erich Maria Remarque wrote in the novel “The Black Obelisk”: Doubt is the other sidefaith. And it is precisely doubt that is absolutely necessary at the first stage of a person’s work to change himself. Along with a person’s lack of trust, the next severe consequence of childhood psychotrauma is a person’s identification of himself or his character traits with the program itself, formed as a result of traumatic influence. To overcome this point, the work of a psychologist should include several levels, the most important of which should be the destruction of existing relationships (primarily those formed as a result of a traumatic experience) that “work” in a person’s mind automatically. For example, a person’s good mood changes within a short time for the bad. He himself does not understand what caused this, since the situation in which he found himself did not change in any way. When analyzing the situation and tracking what is happening, a pattern emerges where the role of the mind becomes obvious, which interprets a certain word said by someone as a reason for a change in mood. The word itself does not carry the same semantic load that the perceiver gives it, since for the mind of a given person it becomes a “trigger” for launching a program and acquiring a certain mood. The following scheme is built: a good mood - a heard word (or event) - the person’s mind (interpreting a word or event as a reason for experiencing) – a bad mood. In this case, it is important to realize and thereby break the connection between the need to experience a bad mood and the word or event that the mind has interpreted in a certain way. Remove the equal sign between the interpretation of the event and the event itself. Show a person that one thing does not necessarily equal the other, and that this “chain” works each time for only one reason - according to the usual pattern, which is not a reflection of the existing reality, but only demonstrates how its own illogical relationships that have developed as a result of a traumatic experience and existing in the attitudes and worldview of an adult, can interfere with him. Let's take another example: a woman who, from childhood, was “stuffed” with instructions about how “it should be”, as an adult, perceives any information written (or spoken) not in a literary (emotional) way, but in a scientific (or other, not emotionally charged) way. ) language, like notations and moral teachings. She transfers her negative attitude (created on the basis of the scheme of her perception) to everyone who she associates with “teachers” from childhood. In this case, the established program is also at work, the main erroneous link in which is the nature of the woman’s own perception. If every time, noting her painful reaction to messages from the outside, this woman realizes that the information message itself does not carry any element of “teaching” for her, and that the reason for this is the incorrect connection between the message as a signal from the outside and her reaction in form of a desire to protest, then this woman will be able to break the wrong chain of conclusions, and, therefore, save herself from the need to react so painfully to events and words that have nothing to do with her personally. In exactly the same way, any person who has realized his error of perception , is able to note it for himself and work to change his own reaction to this or that “painful” signal from the outside. After all, external signals themselves do not have any power or physical force over us: they cannot move us from our place or force us to do something in a certain way, and the whole point is in the reaction of the person himself to the external signal. And if we understand that the reaction is ours, then we are able to change it independently. In this case, the task of the psychologist is to help identify this reaction and demonstrate its work to the person himself. Awareness of one's role in the reaction will give the person the opportunity to subsequently change this reaction. In the next article I will talk about practical exercises that will help.