If you are stuck in a feeling, you may not even immediately recognize it. Being stuck can be mistaken for living the feeling. Repeating endlessly. The difference is that living has a beginning, a peak and an end. But being stuck has no end. For various reasons. There is even a type of psycho-emotional device - stuck. Just as a personality trait, it's neither good nor bad. How can you tell if you're stuck? You cannot do things that are familiar, simple, or even very important to you. Constantly mentally returning to the subject of your experiences. You tease him this way and that, try to get rid of him, but to no avail. At first glance, the situation may seem hopeless. So, you realize that you are stuck. What next? Imagine a car stuck in the snow. Or a child who can’t get down a steep slide. And it’s scary to drive, basically stuck. What will you do? In case of a car accident, call for help, right? It’s unlikely that it would occur to you to push the car out with your own hands. It's stuck tightly, we're talking about getting stuck. What about the baby? You will also try to help him. And support with the words: “I’m close, don’t be afraid, everything is fine, I’m catching you, come down.” If you swear at the car, it’s unlikely to go. And if you call a little man a coward, this “get yourself together, you rag” will really help? He will only be even more frightened and feel that he is completely alone. So why do we use these draconian methods towards ourselves? After all, we clearly see from the outside that getting stuck requires asking for help. And it’s so difficult to admit this to yourself. However, this is the only way out. Otherwise, we will continue to stew in our own thoughts and unlived feelings. Getting out to people and redirecting attention outward helps us get out of the so-called tunnel thinking. See other facets of life and perhaps share your sadness with someone by talking about it. Eco-friendly, desirable. By asking permission and describing the situation without immersing the interlocutor in your complex feelings, but as if from the outside. I-messages. If it is still difficult and generally incomprehensible, if the experience has been stuck for a long time and strongly, it is better, of course, to get help from a psychologist. He will help you sort out the problem and teach you how to cope in the future. Getting stuck happens. Let's learn not to scold ourselves for this, but to find support and a way out. Take care of yourself. What other self-help options do you know and use? Write in the comments! You can get a space of support, unconditional acceptance, and the experience of caring attitude in personal therapy. Write to me on WhatsApp +79166981481 Personal blog "Enchanted Soul" is always in touch. Psychologist Ekaterina