I don’t want to live anymore - sometimes these words come out of the mouth thoughtlessly, when a person is upset, tired after a hard day at work, or something doesn’t work out according to his wishes, or the children don’t listen... It’s a different matter when a relative or loved one dies. And there is a situation when a person really doesn’t want to live, for example, he finds out about his illness and he has a choice: to do something or fold his arms and do nothing. There are many situations when a person thinks about not wanting to live. When a person talks about this to family, friends, neighbors (whom he considers necessary and important), he expects moral support, wants to get strength for life, just to talk it out, he is looking for support in life. Those to whom he addresses sometimes become frightened (the topic of death is scary for many) and, on the contrary, stop communicating with him, someone says that “here I am...” and then there are instructions for survival, suitable only for those who it was created and used to using it, but not by the one who converted. A person often does not realize where this reluctance to live comes from. What lies on the surface is not always the true cause of the desire for death. A psychologist will help you figure this out. The reasons are deeper. People who are close to a person who is in a difficult psychological state can tactfully suggest ways out of this state, suggesting that it is better to consult a specialist than to try, as in a fairy tale, to pull yourself out of the place where appeared (from a state of melancholy, despair, hopelessness). Or give, for example, a link to a site where there are smart consultants and a professional forum. Or give the telephone numbers of psychologists (several, so that a person can make a choice in this simple matter, then it will be easier for him to make a choice between the decision to live or die). If a person makes up his mind and comes for a consultation with a psychologist, we can say with confidence that he wants to live, he has motivation, he just needs help to understand the situation. Let me give you some examples. This may be a reluctance to come to terms with the death of a loved one - “I’m coming for you.” A person takes care of a seriously ill person and spends a lot of physical and moral energy - “Better me than you.” Or many feel “guilt” in the death of another person, arrogantly believing that they can control human destinies. Sometimes a person is identified with a deceased (or expelled) member of the clan (an aborted brother or sister, a tragically deceased grandmother, a drug-addicted relative, etc.) and bears his fate, as if reminding him that that person has the right to his place in the system. It is important to accept the illnesses that arise in a person, and not fight them, ignoring them, cursing them, asking why I need this. It all starts in family stories. The interrupted movement of love from mother (and father) to the child can be restored so that a person can receive support and strength to live from exactly where he got the most important thing - Life - from mom and dad. Systemic family constellations (according to B. Hellinger’s method) allow a person to understand the intertwining of family history, clan.