My partner and I almost never talk deeply to each other, even though we are close to each other. One of the essential functions of a family is support and empathy between family members. If it is not met, then a person's basic needs remain unsatisfied, and emotional contact weakens. Touching on deep topics can be scary for both you and your partner. Could it be due to a previous bad experience, ridicule or condemnation from loved ones, significant people? Or the reaction to the attempts of one of you to share intimate things was not what you would like? If it seems to you that for this very reason, you communicate superficially, then this is a question of trust and creating a safe environment within your relationship. Another reason could be the opposite situation. You have been with each other for so long and close that it seems that you discussed everything, your partner knows what you were wearing when you went to your grandmother’s birthday when you were 10 years old, and you know what your partner drew in notebooks for math lessons in last year of school. And, as a consequence, the question arises: what else is there to discuss? Why do we even need deep conversations? - Research has proven that deep conversations are more significant for a person's well-being than small talk. - Quality is more important than quantity. Scientists have proven that talking with a partner about important things brings people closer together, improves relationships and even increases attraction. In this study, you can also find several lists of non-trivial questions to ask your partner that can be used to stimulate communication on deep topics. For example: “Before calling someone, did you write down the things you need to say? When was this and why?” - We are almost always under pressure from society, and relationships with a partner are a special area of ​​life where a person can hide from society and have the opportunity to relax and be himself. Let’s move on to practical recommendations for strengthening emotional contact and clarifying each other’s needs. It is necessary for each of you to describe on a piece of paper the other’s day through the prism of your perception and highlight the following points in free form: - What did you do? - What were you thinking? - What did you want? - What did you get/didn’t get? - How did you feel? Next, you need to discuss this and compare it with real experiences during the day. By doing this exercise 1-2 times a week, you can clearly see how your mutual understanding and emotional contact improve.