In the last part, we tried to explore with you what adults and children are afraid of. Let's go find out further? In adults and children, fears have the same roots: we are afraid of being alone, of losing the love of loved ones or their trust, of losing protection. Peculiarities of children's fears The child is in a position dependent on the parents: he does not have the opportunity to decide and choose, there is only the option to adapt , adapt to requirements and follow the rules. Children’s thinking is characterized by maximalism and self-centeredness: they perceive themselves as the cause of everything that happens, and their point of view as the only possible one. Close adults are perceived by the child as a source of life and unshakable power. The properties of children's thinking contribute to the creation of mystical cause-and-effect relationships that help the child's psyche explain reality and gain stability. I behaved badly today, so my mother doesn’t talk to me. I think she will never forgive me again.📍I disappointed my dad because I got scared and cried. If this happens again, he will exchange me for another, brave son! In order to explain to himself the reasons and complex connections of events in the life of the family, the child uses his logic, comes up with magical conditions to compensate for his own helplessness, in which everything will be fine.📍 If you obey, eat soup and get straight A's, mom and dad will make peace and won't get a divorce. Children's fear can be caused by fixation on a situation in which the parent behaved erratically. For example, when the baby screamed at the sound of a balloon bursting, and mom talked to dad about it for a long time. This situation can perpetuate the child’s fear of balls. If it’s important for the mother and she pays so much attention to it, then it’s really worth straining, it’s something to be afraid of. In order for a child to get what he wants, he needs to get it from his parents. If you can’t do this directly, manipulation becomes an opportunity, including through the experience of fear. I’m afraid to be alone in a room with the lights off, because Babayka will crawl out from under the bed. I want to spend more time with my mother and sleep with her together. Fear can be a way to express forbidden feelings or play out rewarded behavior in the family behavior. Dad says that “men don’t cower in front of the dentist” and I don’t tell anyone that I’m afraid to go to the dentist. But now I’m afraid to brush my teeth in case something happens and I have to go to the clinic again. The child may experience a substitute feeling, for example, fear instead of anger. “Mom says I don’t need to be lively and brave. I am her princess, who is always neat and tactful. I’m scared of losing my mother’s love, so when I want to scream or fight back, I’m afraid, cry and call for help.” There are no ideal adults and it is impossible to create conditions in which a child will not experience fears. But, for our part, we can teach children to experience this emotion. Moreover, the skill of experiencing and coping with fear must be mastered precisely in childhood, so that, as an adult, a person can understand his fears and work with them. Do you remember your childhood ways of asking for what you want indirectly? Or some non-verbal messages from your parents? Write below ✍