The work of a psychologist: Interesting and Useful 917 Good afternoon, Dear Friends! And you and I continue to study the work of a therapist, we continue to study its various features, we continue to share our experience and knowledge accumulated during practice. I bring to your attention the nine hundred and seventeenth article in the series. Once upon a time, Frederick Perls put forward the idea that everything is already in a person himself and you just need to help him discover it in himself and everything will be fine. That is, problems are solved, according to him, only by the fact that we can release something held, hidden inside a person. Maybe I didn’t convey all this exactly now, but I think I managed to convey the general meaning. But everything, as you understand, turns out to be somewhat more complicated as a result. Perls subsequently revised his idea and abandoned it. But she turned out to be tenacious. And now we have to deal with statements of this kind. For example, you cannot always just support or open something in a person, in our client. It may simply not be there. Something that we hope to awaken in him, that lies dormant in him, may simply be absent from him. He may not have warm, supportive people in the past and then have nothing within himself to rely on. He may not get through some crisis. For example, a three-year crisis and not being separated from other people. In general, he may not have any experience. Then there is absolutely nothing to awaken in him. It doesn't have that. There was no reason why what we were looking for could appear in it. What to do? Not only to reveal its potential, of course. But also to create this, so to speak, potential from scratch. For example, go through this same age-related crisis with him, artificially creating the prerequisites for its occurrence. For example, also by creating warm relationships. Analysts will object here and refer to experiments and say that this is impossible. In Gestalt there is a different view. In general, it is important to look at what a person does not have and help him create it. Of course, understanding what is not there can be quite difficult. But it is possible. If we pay attention not only to what is, but also to understand what should be and look, to assume whether our client might have it. For example, he doesn’t know how to say no, he merges with other people. Maybe the crisis of three years has not passed? So, I didn’t learn to separate myself, I didn’t discover my own self. If a person “has everything,” then he doesn’t need to learn anything, it turns out. But no, you need school and college, and it’s important to acquire the skill of building relationships, and empathy may not be there to begin with. Do you also want to share something? Please write below in the comments! It will be important and interesting for everyone to learn something useful for their work or just for themselves! Thank you for your attention! The next, nine hundred and eighteenth article in the series will be published soon, tomorrow or the day after tomorrow! Sign up for a consultation: + 7 - 9 6 5 - 3 1 7 - 5 6 - 1 2 If you liked the material, please click on “Say thanks”! In order not to miss anything interesting, subscribe to my publications! And please share, material on social networks! :)