From the author: I somehow came across an article about how to save the institution of marriage. The author proposes to introduce a temporary marriage with a contract for 3-5-7 years. And the article gave me some thoughts, which I want to share in my article. Today's world is plagued by an epidemic of divorces. Statistics show their steady growth not only from year to year, but also from country to country. And this is only for official marriages. While civil marriages are also short-lived. At the same time, people continue to get married, live together, and be in relationships. Again and again. The reasons why men and women strive for this are varied, and only the lazy today do not ask the question: what is marriage, family, and couple relationships for? However, in this article I want to touch on another aspect of the problem of marriages and divorces. Why, despite the desire to be together, most couples still break up, and the marriage ends in divorce after a year, two, five, ten years? What's stopping you from "living happily ever after until death do us part"? So, two people meet each other and at some point decide to be together. Then they decide to live together. They can enter into a legally formalized agreement and even marry through a religious ritual. Here, every country and every couple has its own variations on the theme. Two people may not do this, but simply live in the same territory, performing the functions of husband and wife, father and mother. Time passes. For each couple its own. And suddenly (and most likely not suddenly) they decide that they will no longer be together: they fell out of love, met someone else, did not get along in character, the children have grown up, there is no more passion, he has not changed, she has become different and a bunch of other reasons. And the divorce/separation procedure begins, in most cases very difficult and painful for all parties. The picture is something like this. And hardly deciding to be together, someone plans something similar and strives for such a development of events. How to avoid divorce, breakup? How to save a marriage, relationship for many years and be happy at the same time? The answer is simple. A marriage can only be saved by an adult, conscious attitude towards a partner, marriage, family + a willingness to SOLVE emerging conflicts and problems, and not run away from them, which, in my opinion, is exactly what divorce is. And the fact that it is absolutely possible and real (to be in a long, happy marriage) has been proven by the existence of long and happy unions. Look around. I'm sure you'll find some real examples. How many people know that there are crises and stages of development in marriage? And if the crisis is not passed, then the couple gets stuck at the current stage for years, or, unable to cope, gets divorced (by analogy with age-related crises: a person is 30-40 years old, and he/she behaves like a teenager). For example, the initial stage in the development of a couple is its creation and separation into an independent, so to speak, cell of society. At this stage, it is important to solve certain problems: to become financially independent from their parents, to create their own rules and traditions, a kind of fusion of what everyone comes into a couple with, to determine the common goals that they are pursuing as a couple, and not as two separate people, etc. .d. If these tasks are not solved, then the couple does not move to the next stage and does not have the resources to cope with the first crisis. The result can be either divorce (and today this is most often) or living together without emotional well-being and happiness (the most common option for the generations of our parents and their parents). Relationships in a couple, in marriage, are living matter that requires care for prosperity and growth and development. Concentrating on solving the problem of preserving marriage by creating new forms (guest, temporary, trial, etc.), we pay attention to the symptoms, to the consequences, but not to the cause. The reason for divorce and fragile relationships is that we behave childishly in the face of conflicts and contradictions. “Do you think differently? We have nothing more to talk about!” “You don’t meet my requirements? I’ll find someone else.” "You've become bankrupt? You can't count on me!" and much more..