In Western culture, support groups for people who find themselves in difficult life situations have long been the norm of life. Such groups are attended by people with serious illnesses, drug or alcohol addiction, there are support groups for people after divorce, for those who have lost a loved one, for those who are in severe codependent relationships, and so on. This has become the norm of life - unable to cope with a stressful situation on their own, a person seeks help. Such groups are very popular, their description can be found not only in psychological literature - the heroes of Hollywood films, popular TV series and modern literary works quite often demonstrate to us that they are members of such communities. In our society, the culture of asking for support is just emerging. There are very few professional psychological groups, and, unfortunately, people are not particularly willing to share their pain. It is customary for us to “keep everything to ourselves” and “grit your teeth and pull your burden to the end.” But will this end be victorious? Everyone has their own resource. That strength that we can rely on when life takes a sharp turn and the ground runs away from under our feet. This resource, normally, consists of internal and external, quite numerous, factors that can, like airbags, surround us from all sides the minute we become defenseless. For example, a divorce situation. Enormous stress, especially if the partner left suddenly, if the relationship lasted for many years..... Very often, over several years of marriage, people manage to lose everything that was once dear, loving, interesting, gave meaning to life, carried positive emotions and comfort. Work, favorite hobbies, sports, friends, a cup of coffee alone, books, self-education... everything was traded for building a home. Internal supports - a sense of oneself as a Personality, knowledge of one’s needs, boundaries, self-confidence, feeling attractive, the desire to invest one’s strengths and capabilities in one’s development - also end up in “failure”. They have not participated in life for so long that in a stressful situation they simply cannot quickly “surface” to the surface. A person finds himself helpless and confused in the face of his own grief.....depression is aggravated by a feeling of global loneliness. The thought comes - I can’t cope, I simply don’t have the strength for this... It is at this moment that a person needs the support of other people. It is necessary that someone be physically nearby. But what will this give? - The feeling “I am not alone.” This means I already have someone to rely on! There is someone who cares about me - our rears are covered, this is an appeal to our child part... the confused child in each of us asks for participation and a strong adult nearby. Everyone needs this, especially when everything around is collapsing... - “There are people who were able to cope with the problem, which means I can too!” Sometimes, just meeting a person who was able to cope with something that seems huge and overwhelming can radically change the situation - give a huge boost of energy to fight! At a support group for cancer patients, there is always a participant or psychologist who was able to overcome the disease and recover. This is always a huge incentive and support - and I have a chance, I just need to use it! - To share experiences. To prevent negative feelings from hanging like a dead weight in the soul and aggravating the situation, they must be given away and shared! Working with feelings in a support group allows you to free yourself from what is drowning you and give you the opportunity to rise to the top. There is a myth that communication in a support group only hinders you from getting out of the situation, because it is communication with the same “losers” as yourself. “Everyone there has cancer, what can you talk about, it’s bad for you!”, “There are all the women there who couldn’t keep their husbands, you won’t learn anything good from them!” Organized under the supervision of a psychologist, such communication will help to significantly strengthen a person’s internal resource, give.