In childhood, we develop the so-called constancy (constancy) of an object, which helps us withstand and experience an autonomous stay, as well as an ambivalent image of another, containing both positive and negative qualities for us. If with any If a family member has not formed the constancy of the object or has partially formed it, then the following unpleasant consequences may arise. I will consider an example with a mother, but it could be any other family member. Until a certain age, a child perceives a good mother and an evil mother as two different objects. If a mother is angry with him, then this is one mother, and the one who strokes, sings, feeds is another good mother. If subsequently this image does not become whole, then most often the child will split the mother’s qualities and leave only one. Mom will either be absolutely good or very bad. At that moment in childhood, this was most likely a method of survival for the child in a bad situation, but unformed constancy will affect the quality of life in adulthood. If a child has split off negative qualities and his mother is good in everything, then he will project these negative qualities onto others. The slightest conflicts will greatly frustrate a person and he will be inclined to break off contacts and consider the other person very bad. The opposite situation is when the mother is bad, a person projects the positive qualities of the mother onto others, often being in search of a teacher, a leader who will help and support, giving what he did not receive from his mother. Such projections can go not only to living, but also to deceased family members, when one of the ancestors is seen as a very bad person and the bad actions of the living are justified by the influence of the deceased when he raised them. In this case, a strong irrational fear of an evil ancestor may be experienced. In conclusion, I would like to generalize that it is important to have an ambivalent image of others in your mind, that is, to be able to find something good and useful for yourself, but not as an excuse for bad actions, but as something what will help you adapt and not project split-off parts of your parents onto others.