From the author: Nadezhda Matveeva works as a sorceress. This is without any exaggeration. Magic is intuition plus professionalism. Today, in a conversation with Nadezhda Matveeva, I heard a lot of interesting things. Subject attention is when you like what you look at, and you examine it, admire it. If you like a squirrel and look at it, you are showing objective attention to the squirrel. Every person needs substantive attention. If the mother did not provide such attention to the child, he would not be able to grow up. This is how the human psyche works. A person needs substantive attention. Women differ from men in this matter. Men can come and have sex. And in order for a woman to have sex with a man, he must prepare her. Not in 15 minutes. Hug, kiss, wink during the day, give a compliment... Then he doesn’t need to relax her, turn her on in the evening... She’s already in the mood for sex, relaxed and turned on. If a man doesn’t bother calling her, writing SMS -ki, and making signs of attention and getting confused in the evening to have sex with her is the same as pushing your penis into a stone and fucking the stone. Do you think I need a compliment about the fact that I’m beautiful? No, I know that I’m beautiful even without him. I need compliments about my intuition, the fact that I am smart, brilliant... If a husband passes by his wife, he definitely needs to touch her. He is very busy writing his dissertation, but if his wife passes next to him, he is distracted for a split second to touch her. Then she understands something for herself, that in the evening everything will be fine with them, and not like a stone.*** This diagram belongs to Marilyn Murray. When a man and a woman meet, they each have three values, three sacred cows . These are such important values ​​that as soon as a partner violates these values, the other immediately breaks up with him without talking, breaks up forever. For example, for some it is: DevelopmentChildrenLoyalty For others:MoneyPersonal boundariesComfortIf a partner interferes with development, if he is not faithful, if he offends children, then the partner simply, without any conversation, ends all relationships. There are no more than three such ideas. If someone lists the ten most important values, this is nonsense. Between these inviolable poles, the highest values, sacred cows, there are things that can be agreed upon: whether to close or open the window at night, how much to ride a bike, whether to cook dinner with or without onions. etc. And in the center, in the middle, in the meeting place are what they both like: food, sex, music, relaxation and everything that they both like. This is something that doesn't need to be negotiated. This is what they have in common. If at least one partner does not understand, or does not want to understand, what he and his partner have in the category of inviolable values, this threatens to destroy any relationship at one moment. The road of life On the road of life there must be agreed upon things . We are buying an apartment. We give our children away in marriage. Here we buy a plot of land and build a house. We are writing a dissertation. We are creating an international institute. We are creating a best-selling program. We plant a tree near the built house. If one wants one thing on the road of life, and the other partner wants another, then there is simply no energy to receive money from space. Because instead of making money, energy is spent on endless empty disputes. These values ​​must be maintained at all times. They are created at the moment of falling in love, but they need to be reproduced throughout life. We must not forget about them. For example, for some it may be solving crossword puzzles together, and for others playing musical instruments together. Most often these are common tastes in food, sex, music, joint travel and leisure preferences. These are very small things. But if they are not reproduced, the family fades away.*** On the vector of the road of life lies a “common future.” Some values ​​are simply reproduced together, others are negotiated, and others (“sacred cows”) are left untouched and highly respected, then the couple has the energy to earn2266880