The other day I received a great question from my client. I want to share my thoughts." Renata, hello. May I ask a question? If a woman does not want to feed a man, clean the house, create comfort - is this disappointment? Is this a lack of love?" I would like to INTERPRET this question in detail, addressing the bottomless topic of female-male relationships.‼️ Let me remind you that an interpretation is not a direct answer, but just a version that could explain what is happening. You may or may not agree with this. 1️⃣ Simple or direct interpretation."If a woman does not want to feed a man, cleaning the house, creating comfort" - this means that she doesn’t want to do it. And that’s the point. 2️⃣ Stereotypical interpretation. ▶️ The “light” version or the beginning of the end. This means that the woman feels a crisis in her relationship with this man. And thus, a silent manifesto of disorder, forgetting to prepare food indirectly signals that it is time to talk.▶️ The “rage bloom” version. The woman tried repeatedly to talk to her man. And the key word here is “tried.” Because in fact, “conversation” could take place, for example, only in her internal dialogue, which she scrolls through day after day. But in reality, just like that, to sit down and talk - nothing happened. Or there was an attempt to “talk”, as a rule, this happens on such an emotional level, when a dialogue seems to begin, but in fact it’s just a stream of claims and accusations against each other. In short, there was no dialogue. What happened? Rather, an endless number of showdowns, or popularly called scandals.▶️ The “end of a relationship” version: A woman divorced a man on a mental level .She doesn’t love him, but continues to live in the same territory. If there are children, then she pretends that “for the sake of the children” she is keeping the family together. But the lack of food and attention to her husband, as you understand, does not improve the health of the child’s psyche.3️⃣ Deep versionI here we find ourselves in an unknown space of cause-and-effect relationships that explain such apathetic state and behavior of a woman. This could be her personal crisis, a semantic one. Where the woman lived, as if according to established rules... At first, her parents decided for her: who to be friends with, what to eat , where to study, who to marry, how to raise children, how to build relationships with your husband, what to do with your mother-in-law, how to work, how to wash floors, etc. Then this principle of deciding what to do and how to live was carried out by a man... A thousand automatisms , which were carried out unquestioningly. And then... Bam! Something happened. Perhaps the woman “woke up” from hibernation and realized something for herself that she was not ready to cope with. The woman could simply not be ready for those the discoveries she came to. She closed herself off. I fenced myself off. From the experiences and thoughts that surround her now. As you can see, there are many versions that could explain something. And if you ask leading questions, then there are even more of them. Therefore, in psychology, giving direct answers is as my grandfather said : “It’s the same as spitting on the Moon.” It’s not a rewarding and useless thing. Questions are good because you can throw out a bunch of versions of what’s possible. And that’s all. And only the person asking the question knows the true answer.😉❤