Screams, tears, clenched fists, rolling on the floor, this is the smallest list of what is called a child's hysteria. It can occur anywhere: in a store, cafe, transport, park, at home in kindergarten. Parents who have repeatedly encountered hysterics in their children will probably name the signs of hysteria that their child has. They will also talk about their emotions, which are by no means positive. There is shame, anger, guilt, and where does positivity come from when the “fire siren” suddenly turns on and a heavy artillery of uncontrollable tears comes out. And here neither words, nor persuasion, nor a favorite toy help. Parents often come to our Center for consultation with the question: “Constant hysterics. What to do?” We answer! Any behavior, both an adult and a child, has its own reasons, and until you understand why your child’s tantrums started, it will be difficult to move on. Let’s look at the main reasons for children’s tantrums: 1. Physiological. Includes disruption of the child’s nervous system, congenital or newly developed diseases, as well as severe fatigue or an incipient disease. The child’s body sometimes signals about its disturbances in this way. And if your baby is usually calm and cheerful and suddenly becomes irritated and goes into hysterics for any reason (5-6 times a day), you should contact your pediatrician.2. Crises of age-related development - at the moments of transition (1,3,7,11 years), when the most powerful changes in the child’s psyche and body occur, hysterics may appear. If your baby is going through one of the crises, the best thing is to be patient and learn to prevent hysteria, and then talk through his emotions with the child, support and offer other methods of coping with obstacles along the way. 3. Intrafamily reason. The most common. After all, children are the fruit of a family in which they grow and develop, and if hysterics appear, most often this is a hidden call for help, a request for attention. Sometimes the cause of children's hysterics can be disagreements between parents in raising a child (for example, one allows everything, the other allows everything prohibits, etc.)* Tanya’s parents (4 years old) came to the reception and sincerely wanted to help their daughter, who cried for any reason if something didn’t work out for her; she would give up what she started, get angry, start crying loudly if no one reacted to her, start crying louder and louder, then couldn’t stop until she got tired). As a result of a conversation with the family, it turned out that Tanya’s dad picks her up after kindergarten, and her mom is at work late . Dad tries to instill hard work and responsibility in his daughter, and mother believes that it is too early to load a child of 4 years old and tries to pamper her. Mom and dad have an obvious conflict on this basis. - As a result, little Tanya does not understand how to behave, because what allowed with mom, absolutely not allowed with dad. The only thing that works with both parents is hysteria. It has been noticed that when a girl begins to cry a lot, both parents calm her down. Thus, Tanya’s tantrums not only signal to the parents that they need to choose one model of upbringing, but also help to unite them for a short time to calm their daughter together. In addition, the girl is clearly not Mom’s attention was enough, and in moments of severe hysteria, mom came home from work and calmed her down. If you feel that the problem of the child’s hysterics is internal to the family, you should contact a family psychologist who will help diagnose the causes and find general strategies for raising the child.4. Psychological trauma or severe stress in the child. *A mother came to the appointment with her boy Vanya (6 years old). Mom was worried that recently her son began to cry every time his mother left him in the garden, and when he got sick and needed injections, he became hysterical and did not allow himself to be given an injection. After the conversation, it turned out that on the eve of the appearance of hysterics, the boy’s beloved cat died, at which time the boy was playing with her knitting needles for educational purposes..