Remember this unforgettable horror story about “If you don’t study, you’ll become a janitor!”? I don’t even know in what years it appeared. I remember it during my daughter’s childhood. And now they are scared. My mother says that this phrase was a popular scarecrow in the USSR too. But they didn’t scare me with it, because: “Why should I scare you, you studied on your own.” They really didn’t do homework with me. Mom only helped me draw and checked mistakes in my essays. Apparently, such horror stories come to the minds of parents who do homework with their children😁. And now let’s return to the phrase itself. It is pronounced as if becoming a janitor is something chilling event that, as soon as it comes into life and that’s it, you can put a cross on it. It would seem: the man will become a janitor. And what? Yes, they pay little, but if you collect several plots, you will already have more or less the amount. My late mother-in-law, who had five years of education, but was a sincere, kind woman, really loved working as a janitor. He will go in the morning, clean several plots of land and sit at home all day, doing business, feeding the chickens, and going to visit someone. Therefore, my daughter, who loved her grandmother Raya, as well as her grandmother Sonya, and grandfather Vladimirov, could not be intimidated by any janitor. Once, I already described this case in a note about Grandma Raya, my daughter did not want to do mathematics properly. And I said in my heart: “What profession will you get if you don’t want to study?” . To this my daughter answered me absolutely calmly: “I will be a janitor, like Grandma Raya. I’ll go, pick up some plots and earn money.” And she added: “I’ll work in the morning and be at home all day.” You see what it means to be in the know! A child who knows about the benefits of working as a janitor cannot be intimidated by the prospect of becoming a janitor!😁 It is clear that parents are intimidating in order to encourage the child to learn. But, unfortunately, this stimulation is so-so, and occurs through pressure on self-esteem, a place in the world, among people, self-realization. Therefore, in a child, this phrase can cause a feeling of inferiority, fear of being excluded from the right (higher) society, fear of being unworthy , not achieving career growth, etc. After all, there is a conditional classmate Fedya Ignatov, he became a diplomat, and I... a janitor. It seems, so what? Janitor and janitor. The right people are also the ones who create cleanliness. In general, physical work has its advantages: you don’t have to remember about it outside of work. I went out and forgot. As a person who worked in the canteens of a camp and boarding house, I know about this.😁And how can retired teachers be happy in such jobs!😜In fact, “working as a janitor” is a horror for people who are severely somatically ill, with frequent colds and those who are squeamish. For For the rest, “being a janitor” is a social fear. Therefore, when you are afraid of something and the cold settles in your chest, then try to explore the event - “Is this really scary?”, “What exactly terrible thing will happen?”, “What are the advantages of being a janitor?”, “ Who else can you work with in difficulties?”, “Is a profession (often temporary) a measure of a person’s personality?”, “What else, besides fear, do I feel from this phrase?” etc. In Gestalt therapy there is the concept of debunking the introject. In us in logotherapy there is a method of modulating the attitude. Do not catch the emotions of other people who inspire horror in you in ordinary events, professions, people... (Remember the fairy tale "The Cockroach"). Use logic, distance yourself from the phrase and examine it. And finally. I remembered that when I came to work at school in 1996 after university, eighth-graders told me what a terrible profession “teacher” is, and they would never work as one, getting pennies. And until now the profession “teacher” has not become the status it is. was during my parents' childhood. Although, even then it was not very well paid. But it was considered very important. Pictures from the Internet. Telegram: https://t.me/oksanatankova48 Reprinting articles on the Internet is permitted with attribution and a link to the site page where the article was published. Make an appointment with me: +7 (988) 576-88-85