“If he loved me, he would leave his wife” - the mistress’s side “If he loved me, he would not cheat on me” - the wife’s side Conclusion: the man does not agree with either of the two women at all does not love. Is this so? Cheating + reluctance to leave your wife = no feelings at all? Both women, in order to find out who the man loves, begin to ask him about details, seek out the truth, and compare. The man's answers or silence are even more disturbing. Can not understand anything. Meanwhile, a man experiences warm feelings for two women at once, but the feelings are different and for him this is a break in the pattern... On the one hand, a feeling of kinship, warmth, respect for the mother of his children, a feeling of “rear”, and on the other - bright emotions of youthful love, passion, the effect of novelty. This is not about justifying cheating. The point is that the template: “You can only feel love for one” is not always true. The facts tell a different story. It is very difficult to accept the fact that a man can cheat without losing his love for his wife. But SOMETIMES this happens. Not always! but this option is one of the realities. I can say this because I work with people's frankness and hear about the reasons for cheating firsthand. But now it’s important. A man can love his wife and cheat on her only if there is a crisis in the relationship, distance, alienation, frequent conflicts, problems with sex. By the way, despite the crisis in marriage, such a man is not intentionally looking for anyone. It’s just that some flirting person who likes this man may catch your eye. He receives attention that he does not receive from his wife. He likes it, new emotions appear, it attracts, and then drags on. Against the background of a hackneyed way of life and family alienation, pleasant communication with an interesting woman really transforms life. At first there is light flirting, then correspondence, then it drags on and oh... imperceptibly already thoughts about her and the desire for her body. A pleasant addiction has formed, which is still tied to the same release of serotonin and dopamine into the blood (translation: joy hormones). Summary:1. It happens that a man loves his wife, but cheated on him amid a crisis.2. He falls in love with his mistress and never stops loving his wife. How do you like this situation? Are you ready to accept that this happens??