Initially, here I consider only the relationships of adults who prefer to be in these relationships, without giving up themselves as individuals and, at the same time, not taking an infantile position. Such an ugly phenomenon as using a relationship partner for the purpose of consumption or possession is inherently flawed, and therefore will not be considered. What relationships will be suitable and correct for men and women? The answer to this question will be different for men and women due to existing differences in life goals (tasks). Different goals, accordingly, require different strategies for achieving them, different behavior. For women, the goal, or one of the vital tasks, is the very building of relationships. The ability to build relationships is the main ability of a woman that needs improvement. It is this action that allows a woman to know herself: what she really is, what her shortcomings are that need to be eliminated. If a woman's relationship develops her ability to interact with men, then the right choice is to continue it. Often a woman completely ignores her main task and ability - to build relationships. Instead, she begins to develop other abilities, usually in the field of career or business, that is, she acts like a man. In this case, we can say with 100% confidence that she is making the wrong choice for her development, which leads to loneliness or a feeling of dissatisfaction and uselessness. Men have a slightly different task in life. The goal of a man’s life is self-development, the acquisition of new qualities and capabilities. Only through this action can a man know himself, his shortcomings and eliminate them. The main qualities for a man are the ability to be a leader and responsibility. Therefore, if a man’s relationship with a woman interferes with his development, then it would be the right choice for him to abandon it. Since a man can realize himself only in society, he must come to a relationship with a woman prepared - an accomplished mature personality. Only in this case, in this sequence, will he feel happy in the relationship, and will also be able to help the woman he loves develop herself, and not “act out” his complexes on her.