Dialogue is essentially like playing tennis. Classically, it looks like this: one player serves the ball, the other returns it, and so on in turn. When the ball is out of play on another player's field, he can begin to serve the ball, and the interaction will continue again. Let's return from the metaphor to the dialogue. When you say something, it's your move. And then the other person makes his move. And he does it as best he can, as best he can, taking into account his and your interests as much as he is capable of doing this. Therefore, it is important to be able to listen and hear the other, give him his turn, without pressure, without expecting a certain answer that you would like to hear, allow him to give his own. Imagine you served the ball, and instead of waiting for your partner to return it to you with his action and effort, you yourself rush forward after this ball in order to hit it and continue the race again, because you do not trust the other person, you strive to compete and defend your game with all your might. Absurd, right? How long will interaction with another person last under such conditions? Well, probably not. It will become uninteresting, and your strength will be depleted. Control only over your behavior, with the recognition of the right of another person to determine his own behavior, without the desire to control and predict it, reduces stress, makes it possible to feel more relaxed in the presence of another and to hear and understand the situation more clearly, respond to it appropriately. In this sense, you can learn to give the next move to another person, without holding on to him. This will help free up mental space for yourself, your maneuvers and for accepting the novelty that the other person brings with his manifestation. And this something offered by another can be let into oneself as close and valuable, or rejected, passed by, because it does not catch on, does not fit. One way or another we make this choice. He's natural. Just like someone else does. Everyone has their own move. Own choice. And it’s good if it is done without pressure from the outside, but according to one’s own inner motivation. After all, if a person promises to do something the way someone else wants and this does not correspond to his meanings and values, he most likely will not do as he said. His choice or non-choice will manifest itself in action. It is important to look openly at the situation, at the behavior of others and be responsible for your manifestation, for your interests..