Your husband cheated on you For many women, cheating on your husband means collapse and inescapable grief. Having learned that the husband has gone “left”, the keepers of the hearth withdraw into themselves, plunge into depression, or hastily pack their husband’s suitcase in order to throw him out the door. It becomes especially painful for those women who love their husbands, care about them, make plans for the future, and then suddenly realize that they are not the only ones in their men’s lives. Why does a man cheat? When this happens, women often wonder why their spouses are missing. They are fed, watered, washed, caressed, but still glance at others. How can you not lose your temper when you turn yourself inside out, and give him some intense impressions on the side! Indeed, such situations are not uncommon, but let's look at the reasons for cheating on the part of husbands. There may be several of them: Influence of friends. Many men believe that even after marriage they must demonstrate their masculinity through new relationships, which they openly talk about in their circle. That is, a wife is a wife, but you need to make time for other beauties. And few people want to be the black sheep among their friends because of loyalty. Habits of youth. If from a young age a man is accustomed to surrounding himself with representatives of the fair sex and basking in their attention, then it is difficult for him to give up this even after growing up. Some follow this path until they reach extremes, without experiencing remorse. Education. Children copy their parents, and when the father is active in the family, there is a high probability that the son will follow in his footsteps. It’s interesting that he can take his mother’s experiences and tears to heart and condemn his dad. But as soon as he grows up, he will consider his trips “to the left” as something natural, not paying attention to the suffering of his wife. Instincts. A man can cheat by giving in to his natural instincts. At such moments, he does not listen to reason and does not think about the consequences. He is driven by one desire - to get the object of desire, no matter what. Once or constantly? If the husband’s betrayal is confirmed and not far-fetched, try to find out whether this act was spontaneous without any hints of continuation, or whether connections with other women become regular pleasure. The future fate of your family will depend on this. Of course, there is no guarantee that a man will answer honestly, but many nuances in his behavior can help in analysis. In the case when betrayal becomes systematic, you need to understand that there are big problems in your relationship with your husband. Find out why he leads a double life, and in further actions, proceed from the information received. Talk or remain silent? Having learned that their husband has cheated, some women heroically remain silent, pouring out their pain into the pillow. And the man at this time behaves as usual, hoping that his wife did not find out about his offense. What will be right? Should you remain silent or still decide to have a difficult conversation? Psychologists believe that you should choose the second option, otherwise pain and resentment will accumulate, poisoning your life. Start the conversation calmly and without scandal. Otherwise, you will still be blamed for everything. Tell your husband that you know about his cheating and want to understand why he did this. If a man is ready to talk to you, do not stop him from speaking. Next, talk about trust and how it can be restored. Knowing that you are ready to forgive your beloved for betrayal, be gentle with him. But if you forgive, making it a great favor, and then constantly reproach it, then nothing good will come of it. What to do? First of all, remain reasonable. It’s never too late to say nasty things and throw things off the balcony, but then you can be very ashamed of these impulses. If you absolutely need to “unwind”, go to a quiet place where no one will disturb you. Cry enough, let your emotions out, and then return home. Don't do anything stupid. Paying your husband with infidelity for infidelity is the most wrong decision. Casual partner.