WHEN TRANSFORMATION IS LIKE AN ASPHALT ROLLER...This also happens. You begin your journey into the depths of yourself, go to trainings, consultations, seminars. And everything is fine, but somehow scary. You go even deeper, it’s scary. And even deeper... At some point it covers completely! It’s even difficult to track this very moment clearly. It is sudden, unexpected and destructive to the very core. It’s like an explosion coming from somewhere inside. When there is no way to escape from this transformation, no way to hide, no way to return everything to the way it was. For me, this process is similar to childbirth. Yes, don't be surprised. Precisely childbirth. As a mother of three daughters and a former doula (accompanying during childbirth), I understand perfectly what I’m talking about. You are pregnant and expecting a baby. You can imagine how everything will be when he is born. (it’s the same thing when you go to training... you dream about how powerfully everything will change). Labor has begun. And, you know, everything is not so rosy. The stomach hurts like crazy and the process is slow, and everyone is surprised: “Well, yes, it hurts... you’re giving birth. Breathe!” It’s the same in transformation. You are already in incredible pain, and everyone is saying, “Breathe!” So what can I say? What do you recommend? Transformation, like childbirth, takes time. The process cannot be accelerated. And then the woman in labor experiences unbearable pain. It was as if the whole body had been twisted and squeezed and torn at the same time. And no one can help! Nobody! BECAUSE THIS IS HER WAY AND SHE IS ALONE IN IT. There are only accompanying people... It’s the same in transformation. There is a guide nearby - a psychotherapist, trainer, coach. But he cannot relieve pain, walk for you, or give advice. Because there is no right advice. Unless - BREATHE! Then the pushing begins. When the baby is already born. The process is ongoing and cannot be stopped. No matter how much mommy refused, she suddenly changed her mind, no matter what she screamed. The process is underway. And the child will be born. Everything is exactly the same with transformation. Maybe you changed your mind about changing, or decided to hide, freeze, stop “growing personally,” but THIS IS IMPOSSIBLE! Can't stop. All that remains is to BE IN IT. Relax, as obstetricians say, and breathe. THE MORE YOU RELAX YOUR BODY, THE EASIER THE (childbirth) TRANSFORMATION WILL BE! With love to your lovely girls, Victoria Averkieva (Baltina)