At a consultation, a woman of about forty. She is tired of everyday conflicts with her youngest daughter. No amount of persuasion helps, the girl throws hysterics, as it seems to Emilia, out of nowhere. And screams terrible words: “Let you not will, I don’t love you, die!” At the same time, he can throw himself with his fists and scratch those who are trying to reason with a five-year-old child - relatives, friends. Neighbors make comments to Emilia when they meet. And Lisa, her daughter, behaves disgracefully. Falls to the floor in the cinema lobby , in a shopping center, screams, kicks Emilia as hard as she can. At the development center, where the girl goes three times a week, teachers talk about the child’s willfulness. She is difficult to get along with, always on her own wavelength. It’s the same story at the dance. Emilia is given different recommendations for raising a girl, but nothing changes. “Sophia, I’m tired, I can’t cope.” I asked questions about how pregnancy and childbirth, the first year of the baby’s life proceeded. It turned out that there was a threat miscarriage for a long time, starting from the third month of intrauterine development. The girl was born prematurely and had a cesarean section. Development in the early stages was within normal limits. When asked about her emotional state during this period of time, Emilia replied that she was often irritated and unstable. At the first session, we found out a lot - Emilia’s feeling of guilt because her daughter has hysterics in public, when she just wants to hide and not admit that I am this girl’s mother, Lisa’s sense of rivalry with her older sister (two years apart), who is also naughty at home , but beyond that there is a diligent child, the girl has a feeling of fear of her mother and a feeling of anger. The young woman saw that she really had a different attitude towards Lisa and Asya. When choosing the figures, this was traced very clearly. Lisa was designated as a wolf , and Asya is like Snow White, the reaction of behavior to Lisa in the form of a tmgra, to the eldest daughter in the form of a cute cat. The reason for these reactions was the difference in expectations. Lisa stood in a field where nothing good was expected from her, but everyone was focused on Asya the client’s hopes. Analyzing the arranged figures in space, I saw that such a reaction to Lisa’s behavior was connected with Emilia’s own past negative childhood experiences. It became clear that the father often punished the girl, using a belt, calling offensive names. The mother did not prevent this, but felt sorry for her daughter , when her father did not see. Emilia felt strong anger, sometimes rage, and as a teenager she did a lot in defiance of her parents, left home very early. She met a young man and married him. He raised his hand to Emilia and endlessly humiliated her. The woman found the strength to part with him during the period when Lisa was born. Mom supported her daughter in this decision. I asked to introduce Lisa and tell, being in her place, about the feeling when Emilia screams. We used the technique of two chairs and the woman saw herself through the eyes of her daughter - the screaming mother, looking like she was insane, felt her daughter’s wild fear. And I realized that Lisa was protecting herself from her in this way. She lacks maternal love, she feels abandoned. And in order to somehow attract attention, she becomes hysterical, like a little girl. We end the session with a new understanding of what is happening by the client. There is a desire to write a sequel. Time will tell. PS: confidentiality has been maintained, names and some details have been changed.