From the author: Sometimes feelings come flooding in, and they are not always pleasant, and it is not clear what to do with them. In the article I offer options on how to calm down and learn something new about yourself. What to do if you react strongly to something, get angry, offended, upset? For example, your friend or husband said something to you, and you just exploded with anger or resentment. Or unexpected tears... and maybe they weren’t even talking about you, but the reaction is strong. Or you just go to work and suddenly notice that your mood has disappeared. But it seemed to be good when I left the house. In such situations, I record the state and try to understand where it has changed. What influenced me, what made me anxious or sad. By the way, there is no such problem with anger. You always know what she's talking about. But it’s not always clear what she says about me. Why is it in this place that I am eager to fight. This could be protecting borders, protecting life, or protecting opinions. Or something else... I suggest trying this: 1. When you notice that your condition has changed and become uncomfortable, stop and evaluate what is happening to you. Try to catch what exactly you reacted to (this is easy to train). 2. If possible, write a letter to the offender. Write down everything you have to say, everything you think about him. Don't be shy in your expressions)). Check if the status has changed. It will certainly change - you will calm down. You no longer need the letter; you can tear it up or burn it.3. If there is an opportunity to share with someone who will listen to you, will not advise, devalue your experiences, blame you - do it, talk to such a person.4. When your emotions have returned to normal and passions have subsided, you can try to learn something new about yourself. Ask yourself the question “Why did this situation hurt me so much? What exactly did I react to like that? Why does this moment hurt me so much? What does this say about me?” And remember, most of all we are hurt by people, actions, relationships, everything that we do not allow ourselves, everything that is in us, but we don’t like it, everything that we consider bad, unworthy, low. And we pretend that “I’m not like that.” Or when our borders are violated. Try it) And write if you can share, How does this happen for you? What discoveries have been made??