Among the provocative questions that adults like to ask children, there is perhaps the most emotionally intense, both for the child and for his parents: “Who do you love more, dad or mom?” The first time someone thought to ask me about this, I easily and without thinking answered that it was dad, and for me this answer was obvious. Why? Probably because he didn’t forbid me anything, didn’t scold me, but simply loved me, and I wasn’t afraid of him. Then they taught me how to answer this question “correctly”: both dad and mom. I am sure that if a child freely expresses his opinions and feelings, and does not play with political correctness, then he will definitely answer that dad. And this is all very simply and logically explained. First, children usually spend significantly less time with their father than with their mother, and communication with him becomes more valuable. Secondly, the father bears a lesser degree of responsibility for the child’s behavior, so he is less demanding, controls him less, and forbids him to do anything less. Thirdly, the father has more free, relaxed attention to the child, because Traditionally, he is less concerned about household chores. Therefore, the father spends most of his communication with the child in games, and this is exactly what is needed to establish close, understanding relationships. Remembering my childhood, I clearly remember what dad looked like and how I spent time with him. The image of my mother is very vague, I see her in the kitchen, being in the children's room... It’s more difficult for my mother. She needs to take care of the order in the house, and feed everyone, and take care of the child, and also find time for herself to look good, and, oddly enough, she also goes to work. Therefore, a mother often simply does not have enough emotional and mental resources to be always wise, patient, loving, creative and spontaneous with her child. And it often turns out that, although the child spends more time with his mother, there is no true contact between them, and the most popular remarks are: “Wait.” - Don't interfere. - Don't go there. - Do not scream. - Stop it. - Take a walk. And although the mother sincerely believes that she simply lives for her child, in fact, he feels rejection - the most powerful factor in the development of a dysfunctional personality, helplessness, which subsequently leads to illness and addiction, even death. Of course, I wouldn’t want to present everything in black, but... Dad is less likely to show rejection, communication with dad is better, and therefore is valued much more by the child. If you have a small child, then he will most likely soon hear his first question: “Who do you love more, dad or mom?” I don’t know what he will answer, but when I come to pick up my child from my mother, I hear his joyful cry from behind the door: “Dad, dad!!”... Of course, there is no feeling of pride in oneself in such a situation. can overwhelm a man. But, honestly, let’s admit to ourselves that, in general, we don’t deserve this. More precisely, they deserved much less than our women.