The fact of betrayal in itself, and especially the awareness that you have been betrayed and humiliated, is very unpleasant. But I don’t think we should stop there. It’s worth moving on and understanding the situation... So to forgive or not to forgive?... How to live on?... It’s up to you to decide. But there are points that are worth thinking about and that can influence your decision: Firstly, it is worth noting that there are two types of betrayal. The first is when the betrayal occurred accidentally, unconsciously, under the influence, as a rule, of external factors. And the second is when it is a systematic and constant betrayal with the same partner, which is also accompanied by emotional and mental experiences. Agree that the difference is significant. Perhaps it is not worth dramatizing the situation very much if a man, as the weaker sex, due to the prevailing circumstances (alcohol, business trip, etc.) succumbed to the influence of unscrupulous female charms, some kind of professional network. Secondly, the attitudes with which a person lives: where do most women get this confidence that “all men cheat” and mine will definitely screw up someday. Don’t forget that all thoughts are material, and if we have convinced ourselves of something, then our actions also lead to this. There is no need to look in advance for excuses and reasons for not trusting your loved one. Just love him, yourself and you together. Perhaps you are cheating yourself and there was no betrayal. You just subconsciously really want this, so that you can be right in your beliefs. Thirdly, this is the notorious to forgive or not to forgive. A woman at this moment is always subject to a struggle between two main opposites within herself: pride and loneliness. What will be stronger: resentment and the desire to leave the person who trampled on your feelings or the fear of being left alone with nothing. This condition is especially acutely felt by women who have just given birth, who, due to circumstances, are very dependent on their husband and this concerns not only the material component, but also mental vulnerability: hormonal imbalance, dissatisfaction with their appearance. If you still decide to forgive, stay and continue your life next to your loved one (and my firm conviction is that we should live with our loved ones), then: 1. There is no need to isolate yourself and your experiences, you should try to figure out what exactly pushed loved one to take this step. 2. Do not forget about the instinct of reproduction, which, despite all our civilization, has not gone away. A man strives for new fleeting relationships, mainly because he cannot resist his base subconscious instincts. Therefore, you should ALWAYS be artistic, changeable and interesting! A man should cheat on you with you!!! Please don't forget this. This is the key to your calm life. 3. Don't focus on the fact of betrayal. Think about what led to this!! Correct in your relationships and in yourself what provoked this whole situation. Love is not a dish!!! Everything can be corrected and improved. So. Summary:1. Start with yourself. It's easier to change yourself.2. Remember how your other half liked you and return to this image.3. Think about what has changed in your relationship since then and what needs to be corrected.4. Spend time together as a couple and with friends.5. Create common affairs, hobbies, concerns, rules.6. Change!7. Don’t forget that a relationship is always about two people, and everything that happens in it is the problem and the fault of both participants. If the betrayal is not accidental, then it is worth separating for a while, taking a break from each other, giving the opportunity to be alone with yourself and your thoughts (believe me, this whole situation is not much easier for your partner). Such “artificial divorces” often lead to complete restoration of the family. Be happy.www.2marins.ru