Food. What is hidden in this word? Why is it so difficult to build a relationship with her? Some people cannot live without it for even an hour, some refuse it, some are indifferent. On a symbolic level, food is perceived as an image of the mother. Sometimes, in relationships with food, the relationship with the mother is unconsciously played out. If a girl was raised by an overbearing, suppressive, dominant mother, then it was hardly possible to protest or freely express her opinion. As a result of unexpressed emotions about such upbringing, a girl may refuse food, thus symbolically refusing her mother, not accepting her, saying “no.” In this case, there is a risk of developing anorexia. And there are mothers who “suffocate” with their care and guardianship, who do not want to see their daughter grow up, who subconsciously strive to merge with the child, as in infancy, when mother and child are perceived by each other as one whole. Or a mother who endlessly expresses her opinion “puts her two cents in” into the girl’s worldview, not allowing her picture of the world to form. “Fed up with such upbringing,” the girl, who in childhood could not respond to an authoritative adult figure and express her love, eats until her stomach hurts and throws food out of herself. You probably guessed that we are talking about the onset of bulimia. And there are women who so desperately want to stay under their mother’s caring wing, or vice versa, they have never had enough love, warmth and affection, that the only way to get it symbolically is by eating sweets and flour, dairy products. And you immediately feel comfortable, feel safe, and anxiety decreases. How can you refuse extra candy? After all, unconsciously she is a symbol of maternal love, and there is no such thing as too much love! But when is the attitude towards food equal? When does a woman eat for pleasure, without overeating, to a comfortable feeling of fullness? When the inner figure of the mother is accepted, when all claims against the mother are exhausted, when a woman becomes a truly adult who knows how to take care of herself. To do this, you need to have within yourself the image of a caring mother. This means that a woman knows how to take care of herself, listens to her desires and needs, knows how to console herself or ask for help, encourages and praises herself, does not expect too much from herself, knows how to balance rest/stress. I wish to become one and all be a good mother to yourself