Every day we are surrounded by many people: acquaintances and strangers, relatives and not so, young and old, good and evil. With some we communicate easily and after communication only pleasant feelings remain, with others communication is sometimes very difficult, you feel devastated, anxiety, irritation, and guilt appear. These negative feelings are trying to tell you: “This person is a “vampire” (psychological, of course).” It’s good if you have to communicate with such a person not often, and sometimes only once, but it also happens that the “vampire” turns out to be the closest person - the mother. So what to do then? How to stop irrevocably wasting your resources and vital energy? It’s not all bad, it’s possible and necessary to pacify the “vampire” mother (for your own good). As a rule, the process of pumping energy occurs as follows: The mother asks about something; 2. You answer the question;3. The mother, based on your answer, begins to criticize (or give advice); 4. You make excuses (or object). So. At that very moment, when in the mother’s voice one can already feel the “assault”, the teaching, (“how many times I tell you, I tell you, but it’s all to no avail,” etc.), the “vampire” then sticks its proboscis and is about to will begin to “pump out” energy. And the pumping out of energy will begin when you begin to make excuses, feel dissatisfaction, irritation with your mother and even some hopelessness: they say, “she started reading morals again,” “how tired of this ...,” etc. But the peak of the pumping will occur when you make excuses with anger and irritation. What then? Then everything is simple, the “vampire” got his, now he needs to pull out his proboscis (tenderness and warmth appear in the mother’s voice) and lick the victim’s wounds. But the victim no longer wants to continue the conversation, because... despite the fact that there is still irritation with the mother, but now it is a different irritation, this is the irritation of an exhausted person who asks only for one thing: to be left alone. But this is exactly what the “vampire” mother needs, she can’t wait to end the conversation quickly, because she has already received everything she wanted. When communicating with “vampires,” energy is transmitted through words, and this happens in two ways. Firstly, through new information about yourself, answering her (mother’s) questions. And secondly, through completely fair and, in general, understandable objections and disagreement with the mother. Therefore, it is necessary to block these energy transfer paths and block them in the following way: 1. do not give any new information about yourself; 2. agree with the mother’s criticism and her advice. It is possible that the first times of communicating with your mother in a “new way” will not be easy, perhaps, as they say, slipping into the old model of communication. To control communication, you can first record your conversations with your mother and, if necessary, work on mistakes. The main thing in a conversation is to try to speak in a friendly tone and agree (“It’s cold today. Are you dressed warmly?” - Mom sternly. “Yes, Mom, it’s really cold today. And I dressed warm” - you are friendly and kind). For some time, mom will completely stop her attempts to “vampire.” But the question is: will mom stop being a “vampire.” Most likely, very soon she will find another donor. But your physical condition will noticeably improve, vigor, energy, self-confidence and your own strengths will appear. Good luck!