From the author: You can read other articles about relationships in my newsletter “How to get married? I’m very impressed. And I was impressed by the cartoon “Rapunzel.” So, for those who haven’t watched the cartoon, I highly recommend it. I know what kind of education the author of the script has, but if he ever gets tired of working as a screenwriter, he can safely go to psychology. And now briefly about the moments that hooked me, although it’s unlikely to be short) “Rapunzel” is a story about parent-child relationships. during the crisis of the family system, which is associated with the separation of the child from the family. A detailed description of the feelings and strategies of behavior of the parent and child during this period is a good illustration of the complexity of the moment. Maman is a gorgeous classic character in a classic codependent relationship. that she will grow old if her daughter leaves her. Mom is smart, so she uses a lot of manipulations in an effort to keep her daughter. (Some mothers who only know how to prohibit and intimidate should learn from her:). The variety of feelings that this woman manipulates commands respect. This includes a feeling of guilt (“This will break mommy’s heart,” “I will die if you leave,” etc.), a sense of duty (“I saved you from evil people who wanted to take advantage of your hair”), a feeling of inadequacy (“ Mom is smarter”, “How many dangers lie in wait for you outside, you won’t be able to cope”), fear of mistakes (“You will ruin your life”, “Mom will never give bad advice”) and finally just a ban (“You won’t go anywhere”). Like any codependent mother, instead of having an affair with two handsome robbers, when her daughter left her home, she develops a plan to get this daughter back. And here a question arises in me, no longer fairy-tale or cartoonish. Why does this woman need beauty and youth if she doesn’t even use them? Maybe she is deceiving herself and holding back her daughter not because of her youth, but because she is afraid of losing her significance and importance? After all, it is the presence of her daughter that fills her life with meaning. Now the heroine herself. A good illustration of the needs of adolescence: in separation from parents, in designating one’s psychological (and in this case, physical boundaries), the need to expand the space of one’s interaction with the world, to try one’s strength in new things, to overthrow parental authorities, while experiencing a feeling of guilt. She must survive all her fears, which her mother so willingly imposed on her, in order to become free from the mother figure and begin to live her own life. The “bad guy” helps her very well in this, and this is natural. Only those who have overcome their own doubts, inhibitions and fears will not stand in the way of the Other’s growth (“You have to go through this, it’s part of your growing up”). And as befits a girl who grew up with an overprotective mother, the first thing she does when she meets a man is hit him on the head with a frying pan. In a non-fairy tale world, this is unlikely to work, so physical beating with a frying pan in ordinary life is replaced by moral humiliation of a man. And as in the cartoon, so in ordinary life, a man remains close only if he is blackmailed (a crown in exchange for his services) or if he is a masochist). And only then, in the process of communication, She reveals to him her best qualities. The heroine inherited from her mother (read: learned) to manipulate others well (see the trick with the horse), set goals and achieve them (the desire to see lights), activity (this is clearly visible in the fragment with robbers in a tavern), spontaneity and spontaneity (dance in the central square of the kingdom, a heartfelt speech about a dream in a tavern) I.e. has quite adequate ways of living in the modern world, just like most girls of her age. The only thing that kept her in the warm (and one would like to write cramped) parental nest was the fear of offending her mother and the fear of facing the dangers (and one would like to write the realities) of life. In the cartoon there are little.