For many people, the skill of interacting with their emotions and feelings is not well developed. We tend to choose strategies to avoid emotions out of fear of coming into contact with them. But the longer emotions are not experienced, the brighter the “explosion” occurs, when it is no longer possible to accumulate inside. I think it’s worth saying that the fact that we experience emotions means that we are: A) People B) Mentally healthy. People who unable to express their own experiences and recognize those of others, they suffer from alexithymia. But often emotions capture and carry us. This does not mean that there is anything wrong with us. But having the skill to manage your emotions can be very useful. By training mindfulness skills, a person learns to recognize the signs in the early stages. But, if you’ve already suffered, then here’s a technique for you. STOPS - Stop! Don't react right away. Give yourself time so as not to say or do unnecessary things. Mentally stop yourself. Don't be led by emotions. These are your emotions, which means you can control them. Remember this! T – Brake! Take a step back. Take a few breaths. Go into the next room. Use muscle relaxation techniques. Calm down. Solving problems with emotions will only complicate the situation. O - Look around. Shift your focus from your experience to what is happening around you. Colors, smells, sounds. Pay attention to your body, the sensations in it. Move. If you can move, then you can already control something. It helps me remember that I have a choice: give in to the emotion or take control of it. Think about what your emotions are telling you? What exactly did you hear before you reacted like that? P - Try to act consciously. There is a good description of this situation. If the husband (or wife) said that the soup is not tasty, this is not a reason for a fight. This is an excuse to pour out the soup, wash the plate and put cutlets on it. In direct communication, the phrase “The soup is not tasty” only says how a person felt about this dish. All. This is not a characteristic of the one who cooked. Not his attitude towards this person. Not reproach or manipulation. This soup is simply not tasty for him. Telegram channel WhatsApp +79037831019