I want to dedicate this week to the topic of working with a critic. I will talk and leave small tasks here so that you can use it to your advantage. Whether you use it or not always remains your right. The first step in the work with the inner critic it is to understand that it is part of you, but is not you. You are not always your inner voice. That this voice is called to scourge, not to create. And this contradicts the instinct of self-preservation and therefore cannot belong to you. Like a certain figure - an internal critic, exists nearby. This stage of understanding, but not yet awareness, is extremely important, as it allows you to share with this voice at the level of imagination. The next step is to admit - what he says is not true. From an early age, this voice was a guideline for you that they were not happy with you and you needed to return to comfortable behavior. After all, not listening to these voices was unsafe then and threatened with physical, emotional punishment or humiliation. In their sound, these will be the voices of all the people who were authoritative for you from childhood: parents, guardians, teachers, educators, coaches. Although sometimes this voice may belong to only one person. You know who. Step number three. If there is a voice, then there is a source. It needs to be discovered. What image comes to mind when talking about the inner critic? What age, gender, appearance in detail, manners does this critic have? Where is he when he talks to you? What does he say? Pay attention to the repeated messages you hear. How exactly does he talk to you? What does he call you? Does he humiliate you, call you an idiot or something worse? How does he point out your shortcomings? Are there any specific topics that he often brings up? In which areas and areas does he scold you more, in which less? And how do you usually react to this? Conducting such self-analysis will allow you to launch important processes within you. If you feel angry, this is a good signal. After all, anger is a signal “my boundaries have been violated.” The inner critic violates your personal boundaries, perhaps every day. And he gets away with it. Now you're an adult, it's time to question the words of your inner critic. Sometimes it's enough to simply recognize who the voice belongs to and accept responsibility for the fact that you're old enough to make your own choices and the voice will lose power.