Many will say: - absence of conflicts. Well, on the one hand, this is good, but on the other, the boss and subordinate also have a complete absence of conflicts. Although in fact they exist, it’s just that the boss shouts, the subordinate endures and remains silent. Or even if they smile sweetly at each other, they may think completely the opposite. Since one has power, the other does not. One is in charge and the other is subordinate. If you move into a family, then there are no bosses and subordinates; everyone here is equal. And if they are equal, then the family needs someone who can tolerate the antics and claims of the other. May be so. But this later results in psychosis and breakdown. And naturally, divorce and your whole life are a complete deception. “How could I or could I tolerate this”... There is no way without conflicts in the family. Since there are two people, there will definitely be clarification and explanations. Others exclaim - only Love. Do not need anything else. Love is above all. But love doesn't last forever. Maybe a year or two, maybe someone will be able to try so hard that he will get five. But then again - and there is no love. And there seems to be no reason to live together, and everything before that seems like deception and a lie. There are also those who say: - there must be constant drive and positive emotions.. A roommate must “delight and surprise” every day. And this is often advised to each other, written in glossy magazines and suggested from screens. But this is also not an option. Just like with love. It goes even faster. Sooner or later the interlocutor will get bored. Especially if the second one, who is “pleased”, does not give anything, only accepts. “Why should I stand on my head every day. Fuck it all”... And he leaves to look for a calmer partner. They also like to advise that you need to “look for something new every day” - Renew relationships.. Master new sexual positions, visit new places... What else is there? in my opinion, a variant of the previous paragraph. Search for fresh pathogens. This way you can prolong something that has already faded away for some time. But it still doesn't help. Because everyone is already tired of each other. And the “fresh stimulus” may well turn out to be another boy or girl. The point follows from the previous one - a person must be interesting. What do you mean by this? Everyone has their own interest from previous and subsequent points. He is a doctor of science, you are a salesman. You are interested in him, but he is not interested in you. The circus is gone, the relationship can't even begin. And then - how long will the interest last? Interesting today. And tomorrow it will seem to you that you have fully understood him - and that’s the end of the song. Some shout - Children. Only common children will help unite you together. But if you wanted to separate and suddenly a child appears, then perhaps this holds back especially conscientious men and women who are ready to suffer. But divorce statistics say the opposite. Sometimes it’s just the opposite - children serve as a catalyst for mutual dispersal. In a global sense, this does not help. A new category of users is actively shouting here. Their icon is money. They proudly declare: “Only money keeps the family together and makes almost everything in life possible.” The more money the “partner” has, the less motive there is to end the relationship. And for a lot of money you can endure the lack of love, assaults, beatings and stupidity. Also not an option. What if the money runs out? Or if you “buy a relationship,” then your “betrothed” with money can kick you out (sell) and “buy yourself a younger and prettier, more authentic and fashionable “relationship.” This is how it will ultimately be. There are people who say: “We must Trust in God. And in general, just believe in the positive. And everything will work itself out. And they will give you according to your faith." Well, maybe they will give you something. To be a believer, you must have a special mindset. This is difficult for an adequate person. Let’s allow a believer to give something. Then you must believe that it is “yours” and not doubt it. And if you start to doubt? Then the problem is, it’s all down the drain. Those who are especially prone to mentalizing - We need a little bit of each of these points “for the long term.” And they spend 20-30 years on dating resources and still don’t find anyone.?