We were given too high demands, which later became so familiar that the understanding of their foreignness seems to turn the world upside down.⠀You need to be quiet, not interfere with the conversations of your elders, find something to do for yourself, don’t whine, don’t yell, don’t jump from happiness. Avoid puddles, don’t run, and God forbid you get dirty. You must be an excellent student or at least a good student. Be able to draw, write, dance and be a first-class athlete. Helping parents, keeping an eye on the younger ones.⠀You can’t become a janitor or cleaner, sit on a gadget, and hang out with friends. After studying, you need to work, be sure to have a family, with bunnies, lawns, and so on.⠀Also, you can’t be sad for a long time, and you can’t complain either it is forbidden. You always need to be independent and responsible. Must have a sense of humor and the ability to talk on any topic. You cannot betray, cheat, be jealous, suffer, be sick, regret.⠀Even if:⠀Betraying is living separately;Changing is going on a date after a divorce;Being jealous is feeling your inadequacy;Suffering is because a loved one has died;Being sick is because - because I haven’t been on vacation for a long time; Regret - because you won’t find yourself there soon.⠀ Laziness, boredom, seal day - this is a curse, and quite independent, you can even without reminders from other people.⠀ I can go on for a long time a list of musts and don’ts, but it’s all impossible. It’s impossible to be like that. I tested it on myself.⠀Admitting that you can’t measure up is the same as finally starting to live. Which means you can love, be loved. You can try and make mistakes. You can choose and be refused. You can be upset when you are rejected .⠀You can do what you were forbidden to do. You don’t have to do what they ask you to do. You can choose a profession and change it as many times as you like.⠀You can spend as much as you want, and not spend on what you don’t want. You can be angry, sad, joyful. You can be a bitch or not be interested in anything. You can be inconvenient for everyone and comfortable for yourself.⠀You can live where you want and with whom you want. You don’t have to live there , where you want and with whom you don’t want.⠀You can lie, walk, jump, write, read, think, suffer, respect, humiliate, hate, miss, need and be responsible for all this.⠀You can everything when you're an adult. You can live.