WHO IS YOUR FRIEND? PSYCHOLOGIST'S PREDICTION (part two) I will continue to predict who a person with the position “I am bad - You are good” or with the position “I am bad - You are bad” can meet as a life partner. So. 3. The position “I am bad - You are good” is a depressive life position of a person who, since childhood, has been subjected to aggressive behavior from his parents and, above all, from his mother. Unmotivated aggression on the part of an adult makes a child think that something is wrong with him, as a result, he develops the feeling “I am bad”, “I always do something wrong, so people are constantly unhappy with me and shout at me.” Self-doubt gives rise to fear of failure, which actually provokes failure. A person internally strives to regularly experience situations of failure, even in small things. He is extremely dependent on the opinions of his parents and authority figures in his life, therefore he strives to please everyone, to be good, to give more than he receives. Such a person sooner or later breaks down, becomes disappointed and plunges into depression. Who will he meet on his way? The one who will exploit him, for whose sake he (she) will go through fire and water. A person with a depressive position will proactively belittle his own merits and admire the superiority of another person, thereby plunging more and more into self-dissatisfaction and uncertainty. What to do? Firstly, increasing your self-esteem is the most important thing. Learn to appreciate the fruits of your labors. Secondly, learn to hear and satisfy your needs, achieve your goals, have your desires. 4. The position “I am bad - You are bad” is the most stalemate position. Not only does a person feel like a failure, but the world around him also seems hostile. Internal conflict quite often manifests itself through attempts to immerse itself in another reality (computer, alcohol, drugs, magic, crime, etc.), in order to hide from internal problems, if possible not to think, not to recognize and ignore them. Who can he meet to start a family? On the one hand, they meet “rescuers” who, for some time, are ready to pull the unfortunate out of all sorts of situations and troubles. On the other hand, swindlers, gigolos, criminals, and drinking buddies ultimately become their life partners if reason does not prevail, which is rare in this case. What to do? Firstly, to form basic trust in the world, to see and accept into your life those people who are ready to help and support. Secondly, learn to see your strengths, accumulate resources, and form a positive image of yourself, which is very difficult, but possible to do. Know how to live! #Psychologistbutuzovauliya #onlinepsychologist #psychologistvomsk #self-isolation #relationships #know how to live #coronavirus #betterathome #stayathome