Any relationship is usually instigated by one person (with the consent of the other, of course). He usually not only initiates it, but also drags it out for some period of time. In a harmonious relationship, the situation changes over time. - You need more attention today, please take it, I received it from you regularly at first. Do you need help from me? Please, I don't mind. Then the partners change again... For a certain period of time, a state of equilibrium arises. And again the blanket is pulled in different directions. You - me, you - me, you - me. During a harmonious marriage (relationship), a man and a woman adapt to each other. They change. If they are interested in relationships and are not prone to an infantile position. Only me!!! To me and to me! Accept me as I am or don’t accept me at all. Adjustment comes from both sides. Everyone’s interests, habits and desires are taken into account. The partner’s rather one-sided position: - Why would I do this for you today if I won’t be with you in the evening? Is there any burning out of this? - With all women (men) it’s easy at first, and then problems begin. Either they want this, or that... They want simple and easy relationships. Simple and easy relationships do not exist even in harmonious couples. There are conflicts, periodic cooling towards each other, adjustments to each other at the beginning and throughout life, which take away energy. There is still a burn from a good relationship: 1. A loved one is nearby who will understand and support in difficult situations.2. The banal warmth of a loved one.3. Improved sex life.4. It's easier to handle the financial side of life. Today you have an ass with money, tomorrow I have it, but we won’t last long.5. Having breakfast, lunch and dinner is always more fun together than alone. What can compare with a banal Saturday gathering with the family.6. Etc. If things have become difficult for you lately in a relationship, perhaps because it was the other person who needed your time, attention and participation. Relationships are like tango. If one partner puts his foot forward, then the second one adapts to him and puts it back. Or everything will fall apart! Take care of each other!