From the author: from my blog Very often children demand something: I want this, I want that, I want that... Our mothers made us understand: give the child everything that he asks - it’s impossible. But what to do - everything about this is somehow vague... Scolding a child for the fact that he “doesn’t know what he wants.” Or “you have everything - and you’re still asking, and at your age I didn’t even have a doll” or “you already have 3 of these dolls!” - the option is doubtful. Logical beliefs do not affect children, but only leave a residue of their “badness” in them: it is not clear why. “I’m probably asking too much,” the child concludes, and for the rest of his life he unlearns such an important skill in our society as asking....Very often the reason for the endless “I want” is some deep-seated need of the child: [/url ]that they pay attention to him, play with him, that he wants to relax - eat or drink. For example, a mother and son go to the store. In the middle of the trading floor, the son suddenly asks for ice cream and does not agree to go further until he gets it. Mom tries to reason with him and “adds” to the child from above: “Aren’t you ashamed? Don’t you see, we need to buy groceries.” Or “you’ve already eaten recently, you won’t be able to fit in anymore.” Firstly, you shouldn’t shame your child, and secondly, you shouldn’t be ashamed yourself. It really doesn't matter how the passing "children's experts" look or think. The main thing is your relationship with your child. In this case, the child is most likely tired and it is hard for him from the organizational room and the large number of people and information. His nervous system is overexcited and cannot return to normal “on its own”, because... the child is tired. If the child is not tired, then he may simply want his mother’s attention, directed towards him, and not towards the store shelves. Remember how you barely trailed behind your mother, who was dragging you by the hand: your legs were tired and giving way, and you just wanted to fall right there. Everything flashes before your eyes - and you no longer understand anything and don’t have time to notice... And some adult voices are buzzing in your head, as if you are at the bottom of a well... In this case, you can ask: do you want to be held? do you want mom to kiss you? do you want to rest? It can be useful to explain to the child what is happening to him: you are tired, it is very noisy and there are a lot of people here. Now we will buy milk - and then you will rest. (this is if the child already understands about “first and then”) Don’t bring things to the point of hysteria, don’t traumatize your children. Often a tantrum is the only way a child can express himself...http://ekaterina-pushkareva.com