“Daughters-daddys” “Children just don’t have enough words To tell how we love our fathers... I’ll write a letter in just one line - I love you! Your daughter...” The daughter herself, that is, the woman, knows much better about the father’s influence on the daughter’s life. And if we talk about this, then to the woman herself. This is exactly what happens in our consultations. Women reveal all the subtleties of the sometimes difficult relationship with their father not only to a psychologist (psychotherapist), but also to themselves. Because if the psychologist (psychotherapist) is a man, and even older than her, these relationships not only sound in her story, but are also to a certain extent projected onto the relationship with him. And then you can not only learn something new about these relationships, but also naturally experience and change them in a psychologically safe environment. In addition, men can know the problem of the relationship between father and daughter from the reverse side. After all, they are all sons of their mothers, who had their own fathers. And sons and fathers are men. And all the violations in the daughter’s relationship with her male father after some time affect the relationship of the matured woman with her male son. And sons, growing up, become fathers of daughters. It turns out to be a kind of cycle of problematic relationships in human society. That is why we take the liberty to think a little on this topic. Let's start with the main thing. And the main thing in this topic is the father. Her future fate largely depends on his behavior towards his daughter. After all, he is the first and most significant man in her life. And since most women want to start a family with a man, who, if not their own dad, can practice on. Learn to interact with this anatomically and psychologically complex creature that is different from yourself - a man. But these trainings often turn into a struggle for survival in the family for a little girl. This happens if the father constantly tells his daughter what and how to do, does not allow her to express her opinion, never praises her, does not admire her, does not provide support, devaluing her. or ignoring any of her undertakings, often in communication with his daughter he resorts to shouting, physical assault, and maybe even sexual harassment. This behavior of the father disrupts the development of independence and successful adaptation of the daughter in society, contributes to the formation of various fears, low self-esteem, and lack of self-confidence in her as a child. as a woman and as a person in general. The appearance of various neuropsychic and psychosomatic disorders in her. This is where the question arises: why can fathers do this to their daughters? Don't they realize that they are harming them by literally suppressing them? Let us briefly express our opinion on this issue. By psychologically or physically suppressing another person, we strive to get rid of the underlying feeling of inferiority. By suppressing another, I can temporarily feel more significant and more complete as a person when I see how the other person submits to me. That is, at the moment of suppressing another person, we don’t seem to care much about the consequences that this person may have. We would like to cope with our feeling of inferiority, although we cope with it at the expense of others. It is then, having cooled down slightly, that we may feel guilty for what we have done. But in most cases, guilt only increases the feeling of our inferiority and, not knowing any other way to get rid of this feeling, we will do the same again and again. How does a person get this feeling of inferiority? It appears in the course of the same suppressive relationships. In general, fathers who suppress their daughters at one time became victims of the same suppressive relationships on the part of parents or persons replacing them. The situation is not much better if the father leaves the family or his premature death. Then the growing girl may not have any experience of communicating with a significant adult man at all, if another man has not taken her father’s place. Under such conditions, starting your own family will be very