In psychology there is the concept of “victim”. This is a person who builds his life in such a way that the conditions of existence are “unbearable” both for him and for the people close to him. He constantly complains about his bad children, husband, and boss, who are supposedly to blame for his life being so bad. If you try to advise him to change something in his life, he will immediately find a lot of excuses for not changing anything in his “complicated and unbearable life.” There will always be someone next to such a “victim” who will help unrequitedly and without any self-interest. He will give himself, his life, to “ease” the suffering of a person who himself does not want to change anything in himself, in his attitude towards loved ones, towards his own life. These “victims” do not appear unexpectedly and out of nowhere - this is how they grow into family. A child who is raised in a family where everyone is blamed for everything will definitely become a “victim” in the future. Everyone is always to blame for him, everyone around him is bad, they interfere with his normal life. As a child, such a person is not shown the existing reality, they are not taught to take responsibility for their actions and deeds - responsibility must lie with someone, someone else must decide and make it “good”. And the child constantly blames everyone, but does not see himself. Lives by the principle “I am good, but the world around me is bad.” Unfortunately, such people are not able to enjoy the pleasant events that happen in their lives or the lives of loved ones. They often focus attention on negative moments, or they always find something bad in pleasant moments. Why am I writing about this? In order for each of us to look at himself and think whether he is not the same “victim” for others and whether he is bringing himself and others suffering that can be avoided. Those who drink alcohol or live in a family with a drinking person , consider themselves “victims” and make everyone in their lives to blame, but they don’t want to change themselves or their attitude towards their own lives. They have to “endure” everything, otherwise how will they live, who will they complain to, there will be no one to blame for their “spoiled life”. Perhaps someone, having read what is written, will recognize themselves or their loved one and think about the meaninglessness of existence, a desire will appear to change their life is not at the expense of someone else, the hope that someone will come and change everything will go away. You have to rely on yourself, see your mistakes and mistakes, not try to change the world around you, but change yourself and your attitude towards the world.