Before you get on your skis and go, the instructor teaches you how to fall correctly: how to group yourself when falling in order to cause minimal injury to yourself. To learn to win, you need to learn to lose. This doesn't mean you should expect to lose. This means that if you lose, you must develop a certain attitude towards losing. I will use the word “losing” in a general sense. It could be a broken heel, or being fired from work, or a pimple that popped up right on your wedding day, or a fatal illness, or God knows what else. Why did I give such contrasting examples? You should not divide losses into large or small, important or insignificant. What is important is the consistency of your attitude towards the troubles or difficulties that happen in your life. What is important is the habit of treating a loss as another opportunity, and not as a problem. As one of my friends said: “There is a way out of any situation, there is no way out only from the grave.” Life is cyclical, and cannot be without ups and downs, successes and failures. And how do we feel about this? As a problem, as an insurmountable difficulty. Or as an opportunity to learn something new, to achieve something you’ve only dreamed of, an opportunity to overcome your fears and move forward. Do you know how to “fall correctly” when you fail? It takes time to “digest” a loss. Give yourself one minute or an hour or a day. Determine your “grieving” time and begin to act when this time is up. This time is necessary to accept the situation, to believe that this happened. If you feel that you cannot cope on your own, seek help from loved ones, friends, a psychologist, or, ultimately, the Internet. Understand that you are not the first and you are not the last in such a situation, you are not the only one! Talk to people who have overcome challenges similar to yours. And just believe that if someone did it, then you can too. We are all ordinary people, not supermen or X-men.