Goodness is hardwired into some people to the core. Have you ever seen these? Sweetly good? - and are dressed to the nines, and have their hair combed, and try to please in everything, and don’t argue with anyone! So ideal that you want to run away from them, but overall they are very good people. So why is goodness needed? Starting from early childhood, we were praised for good deeds (by the way, for everyone, a good deed was determined by their parent - for some, “he fought back - well done!”, for others - in the corner). They were praised for socially approved behavior, mostly. Cleaned up - great, got an A - well done, helped grandma cross the road - here's some candy for you. Approval from our parents implies our entry into society, the more they praise, the more we know how to behave correctly in society - don’t fight, share toys, don’t be greedy with candy, and now you’re already in kindergarten, and then school with its own requirements (also, by the way , excellent and good students are valued), then institute, where grades influence further work. In general, you have to be good and you will feel good in society - one can logically conclude. For society and culture, we must be good, we put on the mask of a successful person, present ourselves in the best light. From the dictionary, you can learn that “Persona is a mask put on by an individual in response to the demands of society; it is a screen, a mask that does not allow one to look at the real face of a person. It characterizes how a person appears to himself and other people, but not what he really is. It is a comfortable mask, willingly put on by a person and used by him for his own purposes... It represents a compromise between the individual and society about who someone is.” However, we are not always so good, in a great mood and with no one. We don't quarrel. Where to put the negativity? I immediately remember an anecdote: “In one kindergarten, suddenly all the children started swearing. All the teachers began to think why this happened. We remembered that last week they had two mechanics welding something there. They found them and strictly asked if anything unusual happened during work. One of the men says: “Well, I guess not... Only once, when Vasya was supporting him with a stepladder, he accidentally dropped a piece of liquid iron behind my collar... Well, I told him straight out - you’re wrong, Vasya, you can’t do that.” !”The flip side of our external goodness is a shadow. What we don't want to admit about ourselves. This is exactly what they say - “you can’t see the beam in your own eye.” Shadow moments cannot simply be hidden and not noticed, everyone has them, and for those who consider themselves exceptionally good and do not admit their badness - the shadow manifests itself in a sophisticated way, but it manifests itself 100%! The more a person shows off his good side, the more he has a shadow side. However, there are many resources in the shadows, sometimes something that was denied by parents hides in the shadows, and in society this is most welcome. For example, a girl’s mother told her that she always does everything wrong, that it would be better for her mother to do it (wash the dishes herself, put it away and dress herself), and the daughter remembered once and for all that her mother did not like initiative and independence, for this she they scold, and it fades into the shadows. Surely you have met people who are afraid to do something in their own way, and their frequent answer to questions will be “I don’t know.” Knowledge about the principles of our psyche helps us notice certain actions behind us. The more self-aware we are, the more likely we are to make choices. The next time you talk good or bad about someone, think about why you are talking about them, that you are projecting your own onto others and why. Sometimes we don’t see the good in ourselves, and sometimes we don’t see the bad. Projection allows us to see ourselves.