For several days I was looking for an image that could convey the essence of the conflict. When you give a task to your brain and stop thinking about it, images and solutions come by themselves! The couple got ready for a long-awaited vacation by car. We chose a holiday in the south. And everything was prepared for this. Dresses, creams, shorts and T-shirts sleep in suitcases, you can go. He is driving, She is nearby already in anticipation of a beautiful tan and cocktails. They're going. And everything is going great, when suddenly He turns on the turn signal, turns the car around, and in the navigator there is a new route - north! I changed my mind! “I want,” he says, “not to ride a jet ski, but to cut through a snowmobile!” For me, this is better, healthier, more interesting than smoking on the beach. That's all! They're going north! He's happy. All his equipment from winter fishing (hunting) is stored in the trunk. He thinks he won't freeze. Expects. And She is both silent and screaming. Doesn't want to go north! Resists! She has swimsuits, dresses, pareos and SPF 30+ with her. Where can I get SPF 30? Scandal. Screams! She is not ready to conquer deer and seals with her sundress and neckline! And He wanted it that way! He decided for both of them! And it is not discussed! And it would be great if you could drop into a good store on the way and pick up everything you need for a quality holiday in the snow. You definitely meet people like this along the way! So this is a topic for mutual discussion! She was traveling south, but in the north she has no idea what will be needed. Khana of harmony and vacation. One side has decided. Without warning, without discussing with the other party changes in already prepared plans. What to do? - go to the store for what you need. - find a compromise and go first south, then north, or vice versa? - come up with a third vacation option that both would enjoy? - You can... - You can... - You can... And this is not about external conflicts, although it is about them, only in an exaggerated way. And about the internal dissonance that occurs when desires and goals fly forward. Plans suddenly change, but opportunities, experience and personal resources cannot keep up with them, “wowing” from the change in direction. They are not ready for sudden changes. Is your health enough to reach your dream? Resistance. Misunderstanding. Lost. I'm through the store! For experience and felt boots. Felt boots are always needed! Don’t forget to write it down on your shopping list. Photo source: Internet