Why do we need a family? After all, everyone can feed themselves, everyone can raise a child, everyone can live independently by buying an apartment, a car and a refrigerator. And by the way, this is what modern society is leading to. If everyone lives separately, then people will buy more of the same refrigerators. Why do we come to a family? First, we come to learn how to develop together. This means not only the development of individuals, but also of relationships in general. To achieve this, you need to learn to communicate, speak the same language, openly and at the same time correctly express your thoughts and feelings, without hesitation to show vulnerability. It is also important to respect and support your partner in his desires and interests, and to sincerely rejoice in his achievements. Secondly, we come to learn high psychological culture. For example, what are your family’s ways of dealing with conflict? This is a good testing, promotional question. If conflicts in the family are avoided or hushed up, the family can become sick and collapse. A family is a living organism. There are couples who, after conflicts, sometimes do not talk to each other not only for days, but for months. Little do they understand how destructive this is for the most important and subtle thing in the family. And what is the most important thing? What need can we not satisfy in any other way except with another person in a relationship? This is intimacy. Intimacy does not mean cooking and washing dishes together. It is something that organizes us into something greater. If there is no intimacy, the relationship resembles more like business partners. And then people cease to understand what family and relationships are for. A huge number of people constantly ask questions like “Why do I need a family and a relationship, it’s not profitable, and I can get the same thing by being alone?” Another point: if people are far from each other, a third person often appears who realizes this very closeness. Whatever one may say, without intimacy there will always be discord in the family. I like it when people live with each other and show up as real people. Then the family reciprocates. Family is the most powerful catalyst, amplifier of the speed of development. But at the same time it is also an amplifier of the rate of degradation. In a family, a person can both grow and degrade much faster than alone. Family is for adults. Let's use this for happiness and good. My telegram channel https://t.me/psyandrei